diagnosing behaviour

[gogsi]

My 4 yr old has started school. Beginning of week 3 was called in as the teacher has concerns about his communication skills and the fact he was hitting out at her and pupils ( this started the week I was taken into to hospital suddenly) So it was new enviroment , new routine and no mummy, I figure this was a factor but they don't.Have only ever seen him hit in retaliation before, Tried to give her plenty of background re his behaviour at home, He's not a great socialiser like his older brother, but he likes who he likes. He's very strong willed, speech can be muddled sometimes,makes himself clear when he needs to. his big bro(6) often speaks for him , remembers huge chunks of dialogue from various films and often comes out with speeches randomly.If you ask him something you sometimes get 'thunder 2 is on fire' no matter what you ask, but is that so bad? He's only 4!I'm allowing the school to carry out tests via their senco person and local authority paediatric consultant and he has an appointment unrelated to this with baby unit check up as he was 8 weeks prem. I'm aware he has mixed ability but I figure it's because he was prem and was happy to wait til things balance out. the worst thing about his behaviour is he poos his pants every day but manages to wee in the loo, he's not bothered about pooing just smiles and says 'what's that smell?' and asks for a shower, have tried just cleaning him up and not showering, doesn't make much difference.He's delightful and affectionate and a great sense of humour am hoping it's just the new enviroment, have him on half days now as 8.25 til 3.30 was a bit of a shock to him after his laid back existence prior.I'm just hoping I've put him in the right enviroment, He seems to like school and goes in happily most days, any body can help me see through this time. I love his strength of character they ain't gonna be able to knock that out of him.

[saintvicsta]

no experience to share sorry but, FWIW, your post seems entirely reasonable to me. I think I would let the senco do their stuff too, just in case. Someone very knowledgable will be along soon.

[TotalChaos]

Hello and welcome. One thing that strikes me - are they doing a speech therapy referral at all? the "telly talk" can be related to language/communication problems. the "thunder 2 is on fire" thing might be because he either doesn't understand the question or can't think of the right answer so is just having a go at making some sort of response. If he is having trouble with understanding things at school/expessing himself then that may be contributing to frustration and hitting out.

[gogsi]

The health visitors in this area have forgotten about us , despite the fact I contacted them re pooing,they just put a leaflet story through the door about sending the poo off to poo land. My lovely gorgeous doctor/homeopath is on extended leave, Had appointment with stand in doc who steered me towards patient.co.uk to find star charts, (He's not ready for them)she said she would get health visitor to contact me, I told her the names of paediatric consultants he's due to see at the child development centre, plus she checked his stomach incase of constipation but no blockage there, I've also made an appointment for him with a homeopath next week.

[BriocheDoree]

Gogsi,
Your DS sounds a lot like my DD. She has a language disorder and repeats verbatim things she has heard on television and things that have been read to her from a book. She also has a problem with pooing (she's also 4). She was toilet trained really late (about 3.5) and still wears a nappy to do a poo. As far as I can tell, the problem for her is that she's a real visual learner and she has to be able to "see" what she's doing which is kind of difficult! I also thought there was nothing wrong with her as she was sufficiently verbal to make herself understood. However, she now sees a speech therapist twice weekly and this has really helped her concentration and her communication at school. She's also adorable, very happy and a real "character" (quite loopy actually!). Main thing is that it's always worth getting these things checked out, then if there is a problem you can work on it early, and if there isn't then your mind is set at rest!

[gogsi]

BriochDoree
Thanks for that, very reassuring, no ones mentioned speech therapy, hopefully over the next few days things will become clearer with the various specialists ds is seeing. x