My dd2 has Perthe's disease, a hip condition that means she has to be off her feet as much as possible fot the next year. It will get better on its own, if she doesn't weight bear.
She just started school and all of a sudden it all seems such an effort. I really don't know how those of you with children with a permanent special need cope! First of all, when I went to pick her up on the first day, her teacher knew nothing about it and I had to explain it all again, even though I had done so in letters and emails and a meeting with the head before the holidays. I've already posted about this.
So -- I explain the whole situation. Then this week I find out that even though she is supposed to use the lift, (classroom 1 floor up) she has ben walking up. Asked the teacher, who said 'but she can climb the stairs fine'!!!! Thats not the bloody point. She can climb, run, jump, hop, skip etc. But she MUST NOT do any of these things if she is going to avoid a prolonged hospitalisation and arthristis in her young adulthood, and possibly an operation next year.
I also have to pick her up at lunchtime at the moment (she goes on the school bus and in 2 weeks will be coming home on it as well, but not yet) and I know I am getting queer loks from the other Mums I don't know as there I am with the buggy (its a McLaren Major but I do think they just see 'buggy') and then on Friday I heard one say to another as we went past 'you would think that child couldn't walk!'
I was so surpised I didn't say anything, but I know I should have. To see that mum walk away in the other direction with her litle girl running and skipping along was just heartbreaking - dd2 was so active and happy, dancing and spinning around, and now she can't. She will again one day, but every day we have tears and tantrums because she can't right now.
I have to pick her up in the buggy as I don't drive and even if I did dh has the car for work. I'm dreading her starting full days as there will then be the lunch break in the playground and I know I have another fight on my hands to get her adequate supervision to be siting down at lunchtime.
I was wondering about asking for a meeting with the head to discus their plans for this (I know they won' have any yet).
Also - she obv can't do PE, so needs to do something else. The school have suggested that I provide something for her to do during PE lesons. Shouldn't that be their responsibility? When I did provide something (her sewing! She has got very good at sitting-down activities at home and is doing a '101 Dalmatians' tapestry thing to make a pincushion at the moment) they said it was 'dangerous' because of the needle. thank goodness I didn't send her with her knitting!
Up until now, I would have said we had an excellent school, and I was delighted in every way. Now, I'm not so sure.
Aaaargh!
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Weegiemum · 15/09/2008 06:54
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