Dunno if this should be in behaviour or here - Flamechick won't stop yelling...

[Flame]

It started because she keeps lying to us. It was vaguely comical "Flameboy is crying because he fell off the chair, got up quickly and put the chair back again"

followed (after a hard stare) by "Sorry. I was lying".

This afternoon he was stood next to me, she came and bashed him on the head (gentle, but still a bash), and ran away again. I told her it was mean.

She told me she didn't do anything to him

At which point I said I was sick of being lied to, "sorry" doesn't make everything go away, and she needed to go to her room for a few mins.

Kicked off - lots of yelling, "I didn't do it!" "I don't want to go to my room!!" etc.

After more yelling (possibly unwisely) we said no Dr Who.

More yelling and screaming, decided she could come down for dinner (5 mins away).

She came down (never stopped yelling) and was set sorting for dinner, which she did.

DS sat in her chair. So... she pushed him off of it

She then denied it.

So she went back upstairs.

She has been yelling and screaming since.

I have brought her down to eat her dinner in here with me.

She is now yelling in my face that she doesn't want to sit there.



I have no idea how to handle this. She has been fed crap for the last week, so I know that a lot of this is my fault.

We didn't take DS off of her chair (after the pushing, we would have done had that not happened). It is "her" chair though. She always sits in the blue one.

HELP!

[Flame]

Right.

All is calm. They have both gone for very early nights.

How to have avoided this:

1. Get act together, stop moping around and start cooking decent meals.
   
   
2. Talk about why the action, and subsequent lying is wrong - flying off the handle and putting in room/on naughty step has never and will never work with her.
   
   
3. Assure her that no-one else will sit in her chair to eat dinner, but that it may be sat in beforehand. If she wants DS moved, to come and ask us nicely, do NOT push him off chair.
   
   How does all that sound?

[Buckets]

Like a fab mum, well done. And good thinking about the chair being usable at other times. Loving Flameboy's pics too.

Bugger I've missed Dr Who again. Must get Sky+

[Flame]

Thank you

(I plan to keep those pics to bring out for girlfriends )