My D's is 13.last September he had a massive panic attack 5days into term.his then went from mildly anxious(has had settling issues at night overthinking etc for a number of years)to so distressed he was having constant panic attacks/huge separation anxiety from me
School called us that first time as he does have a heart rate like a blur it's so fast and face goes scarlet.gp confirmed anxiety
He returned a week later(school wanted a meeting before returning and I waited for all staff to be available).they decided SENCO unit,coming in half-hour after-school started and leave half hour early
He quickly deteriorated needing eardefenders outside and in SENCO. times dropped to pickup at lunch but he was still so overwhelmed was doing no work
After October half-term another meeting.we saw gp again as requested (same diagnosis,but did do bloods to ensure no deficiencies,all systems in order.no concerns there)they said it's behavioural and pushed increase hours.he was so distressed I had to collect him 2hours in.hours cut 9-11 and had given 1-1 but they said after couple weeks having attachment issues and insisted mixing up supporting staff.things didn't improve and by xmas he was exhausted and like a hollow defeated shell,aware had to go but couldn't cope.a member of staff suggested see if could get him signed off school
Camhs referral came then.assigned occupational therapist whom he was too fearful to see without me present
He was so distressed she signed him off saying he was too overwhelmingly distressed to learn anything
After a couple of months she flagged ASD and he's now in process being tested(had initial assessment,awaiting observational test(9month wait here)
I spoke numerous times to school about homework. their policy forbids as "doesn't encourage engagement with the classroom which is the best for learning" but after he was still off at easter OT pressed them too and we got some work which I did with him over a couple hours aday(in twenty minute bursts)they then said we won't mark it as it's not done in school!
So fast forward to this September,still not fit to be there.no work from school(saying they are collaborating topics being learnt this term for us to look at ourselves)we have TAF meetings now.outreach not an option as in my county it's small groups in hospital setting independant from parents.ds does 35 of 45 minute sessions with OT independantly.has no friends,doesn't go outside without me.he attends awellbeing group at our church(arts and crafts mainly retired ladies) but prefers to play with a dog there.
The TAF have asked me to request EHCP from local authority(no idea what I'm doing with that either)
He's a curious child who loves to learn and as in year 9 now I'm afraid he's getting too far behind his peers
I have no idea where to start teaching him myself in interim and before anyone jumps on me for let it go on so long time has blurred from 24/7 care he has required (wakes in night/doesn't settle)and I also have2 other children..
Can anyone advise what I can do to push for a education for him?
And any advice on EHCP also welcome
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Stilllivinginazoo · 22/09/2019 06:03
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