Got dd's annual review report, should be happy but I'm not

[frascati]

Why do I cry everytime I get these damned reports
It's been a year now since dd had her dx and seeing it in black and white has made me feel like I did a year a go.
The report was infact positive but what has worried me is that they are now signing her off for SALT as her language skills are above average. Worrying as she is in a language unit.
My dd is nearly 8 and has asd and adhd.
Just makes me realise that the asd and adhd are here to stay.
Sorry just needed to get that off my chest!

[flyingmum]

Just felt the same about mine. We had the annual review on Friday. All positive, etc, etc, helped by the fact that son has been on 'perfect child' mode for the two weeks previous (bribery) but they always make me feel grim especially as this time it transpires that he also has a severe expressive and receptive language problem that has never been picked up. The overall message was that he's lovely but so complex and then I get my knickers in a twist worrying about what the future holds for him. Hey Ho. One good thing is that I finally met the teacher that he has been having a real wobble about and refusing to go into her classes (this has been resolved now he is in 'perfect' mode ) and the school coped fine with it all. I see why now. Perfectly nice woman but a complete doughnut. Asked us the stupidist question in the world about him (at which the others round the table gave her a look of stunned amazament - which was funny).

All the best. All I can think to say to cheer you is that things do change out of all recognition - the annual reviews my son had when he was 5 were ghastly but now he has changed so much and knows all about his Aspergers and problems and is a thoroughly (although rather odd) good chap.

[moondog]

Frasc,but she is getting salt input anyway as in a lang. unit.
If her lang. skills are above average that is tremendous.
(I really don't think most people hold much store by what written in a review.Honestly,they are churned out by the dozen.)

[frascati]

Do you think so moondog? Is it common for children with language disorders to get over the language probs (although she def. does have language issues in everyday life iykwim)and then to have more asd type issues?
You are right though about the with the progress. My dd couldn't talk at 3 and had a severe language disorder. Infact I think her language skills were assessed as being at 11 months old at 2.5 so I should be happy really.
Another thing is we have hardly had any professional input lately and it's been nice to kind of be "normal" iykwim. Then you see it all there in black and white and it gets to you (gulp)

[frascati]

seen you about, bump for moondog

[Aloha]

Oh big sympathy and hugs to you. I am dreading doing a statement for exactly those reasons.

[frascati]

Thanks Aloha. It's funny just when you think you have accepted it all it comes and smacks you in the face.
Hugs back to you to. I know how hard it can be xxx
I was blossomhill btw!

[moondog]

What I meant is that being in a lang. unit,she is surrounded by people who are aware of lang. issues the whole time,thus environment is geared specifically to this which you won't find anywhere else.

Not denying the sadness that you will/are feeling,just trying to remind you of the bright side.
15 years ago my area had no lang. units at all-now there are 4 with a 5th planned.

(Long time no speak-how are you and yours btw??)