Arm flapping crossed eyed

[shitey]

My boy (8)has always been difficult at home. We manage but it's taken us years to get here, some days are better than others.

Spoken to GP but it always comes back to how he behaves in school. I swear he is a star pupil. Very bright

He flaps cross eyed when things seem tough or excited. He hasn't grown out of this.

Am I wrong to be concerned?

[BarbarianMum]

Is it the flapping you are concerned about, or something else?

Ds2 has grand motor stereotype (non autistic form) and so flaps but it's not a problem. His anxiety however is becoming a problem, so we are seeking help with that. He's also good as gold and high performing at school but he/we pay for that at home.

[shitey]

Hi, sorry hectic day. Thanks .

I worry about his anxiety, depression and temper. He has no filter. I worry that because we have systems in place that manage him are we really helping him long term??

[BarbarianMum]

Systems to help him manage are good (I think). It does seem that he may need some help to manage himself though - this is where we are at w ds2.

I hope you don't mind if I ask whether you've considered/discounted autism for your ds? We wondered about it for ds2 for a ling time (his uncle has aspergers so we know its in the family, so to speak). Pretty sure now ds2 is nt (although def has some asd traits ) so it is "only" the anxiety we are dealing with but this is something it is really worthwhile to know.