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autism and trauma presents the same?

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bugsymalonemumof2 Mon 05-Jun-17 16:32:00

dd is 2.5 suspexted autism but the childmonder is adament that because there was domestic violence in the house until just after she turned two that its the effect of that. she saw it perhaps once or twice a week but it wasnt screaming and blood and stuff, it was slaps and pinches she witnessed

would the trauma from that present the same way?

zzzzz Tue 06-Jun-17 10:43:59

Honestly? I don't know what that would look like so can't comment, BUT your childminder IS NOT qualified to either. I doubt she has much more insight into trauma/ASD than the lady sat next to you on a bus. A developmental paediatrician would be more helpful, or a more general paediatric consultant even. Ask your GP to refer you and be firm with the childminder.

The1andonlyFrusso Tue 06-Jun-17 12:09:35

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Shybutnotretiring Tue 06-Jun-17 14:45:10

When you've got a SEN child people like to blame you and make you feel guilty. I don't really understand why (except when it excuses their own failings with the child) but they do.

zzzzz Tue 06-Jun-17 15:07:14

I think it's more they always always want to deny the disability until you get dx and then they "always suspected" 🙄

AlphabetSoup3 Tue 06-Jun-17 15:51:48

Get prepared for her to be a line of people who will sometimes put their penny's worth in. She probably isn't meaning to be unhelpful - but she is. There may be effects on your child but that's the same for all of us - upbringing is constantly called into question but it's not a proven cause of autism at all. We all try our best and if you have got out of domestic abuse the last thing you need right now is to feel guilty because of the past. You have now and you have the future - and you have moved you and your kids out of this situation.

Now you also have the added work of helping your child - so you will need all the confidence and energy you can muster and just keep going. If you are on your own - then surround yourself with people who can really support you well - not just bring you down. Good luck.

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