hi
feeling very guilty today.took dd's to school this morning, dd1 with sn has socialisation problems for want of a better description. as i said on another thread the other day, her teacher told me only this week she's 'socially isolated by the other children'
('but they don't mean to do it' wtf?)
anyway, so this morning waiting to go into school, dd1 went lurching up to another girl who's in her class, all overexcited and like on of those really lovely but too enthusiastic puppies. i couldn't hear what the conversation was about, but dd1 was really excited about it, but couldn't see that this other girl obviously wasn't ! dd1 tends to be either really,really quiet and withdrawn and talking in a virtual whisper, or else she's shouting and screaming (in a happy way) and right in your face.
dd1 can't read body language or facial expressions i dont think: this other girl was actually putting her hands up between them and shaking her head, her whole face was as if to say 'no!' iykwim.
normally in the playground, i try to look at the sky or something because i find it so painful to see this kind of thing, but this morning i just couldn't stand by: luckily the bell rang at that moment, so i grabbed dd1 and went to hug/kiss/byebye etc.like usually do, and hissed into her ear 'stop acting so stupid, that girl doesn't want you to shout and be so close to her face' dd1 said 'she's my friend' and went into school.
now i feel like crap, i don't ever want to make her feel 'put down' but i probably just have. but i just couldn't ignore it!i feel bad, i don't normally use the word stupid to her because i hate it, dont want her to to feel down on herself any more than she does already, it was just a moment of pure frustration on my part and i shouldnt have said it. but as her mum, who else will ever teach her that kind of thing?
should i be telling her about stuff like body language/facial expressions, how to read it etc., can it be taught if you don't recognise it naturally? i don't know.(sorry if a bit long)
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feeling very guilty this morning please help
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hk78 · 15/03/2007 11:51
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