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Feel so down and alone

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Anon4538 · 06/03/2017 20:55

I just feel so alone.

I have one child who has some mild-moderate special needs. It is worrying and stressful on us all. I realise we could be worse off and appreciate that.

My H and I used to be so close. Now I feel alone and depressed. I want to be strong and a good parent for my little one. I hate the way things are at the moment.

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Baggins2012 · 06/03/2017 22:51

I know the feeling. I started a thread a few days ago about feeling so sad about my ds. Though my dh was initially down about it too, he is now able to not think about it. If I mention feeling down about my ds he just says we need to just get on with things. Which is true. But doesnt really help me to feel supported.

Have u tried speaking to your dp about how u feel? Are there any sn support groups you could attend? My dc is a toddler so I go to a couple of toddler groups specifically for sn children and it does help.

Its so hard and sometimes all u can think abt. But the other mumsnetters who responded to my thread mentioned how it does get easier.

for you.

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Nineveh · 06/03/2017 23:05

Be kind to yourself. It's really tough and can feel really lonely but try to give yourself a break.
Do you have friends or family you can talk to about it? I find it really difficult to talk about my Ds as we are at an early stage of getting the help he needs, but if I can break through that and tell people I find it gets a bit easier.
You're not alone

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Anon4538 · 07/03/2017 14:51

Thank you.
My Mum and Dad were good but I'm not sure they understand and I have a friend who I speak to but she doesn't really understand. She asked why I get stressed! Don't think she understands why I'm so exhausted and worried half the time. Do need to just get on with it. U just have a period where things get on top of you and we are still in assessment stage. Find it hard to explain things to people at the moment.

H used to be so great at coping with things but is obviously feeling the strain. I used to rely on him a lot for support so it's hard seeing him like this.

We never fall out and we did last night, after awful evening and he went to bed at 8:30.