So DS is 14 (Y10) and at high-achieving mainstream private school. He has ASD diagnosis since age 7. Left prep school after Y8, the prep was very organised - all homework done at school.
At new school he would forget things and struggle with organisation and would do things like defer working on long-term projects till the last minute and what not, but at start of Y10 things were much worse as he basically didn't do his homework at all. He also skipped sports practice on lunch time (because he couldn't be bothered) without telling us even though we were driving him on weekends to the same thing.
School got quite concerned about this as he was not doing any of his homework.
He is literally only motivated by games/internet, he does other things (if told to) but it's quite perfunctory - 15 minutes playing guitar and 5 hours playing games (if allowed), for example. Sometimes he plays games on his computer and then while it's loading will play games on his phone as well. He doesn't try to fix things. Like the video card on his computer wasn't working, so he couldn't play most of his games, but he didn't work through from start to finish to try and fix it, he preferred to have it sitting broken for literally months.
He also tries to put things off 'I've got two days to do that', he says on Monday. Me : 'Really, when is it due?' He: 'Wednesday'. Me: 'Well that's not two days is it, it's one.'
Anyway, we have been more rigid with having him do homework and what not, and set firm rules with him about IT (his ipad and phone go in our bedroom at bedtime, so he can't play with it in the night). But the school have still asked to see us. They asked for any psychological reports, etc. It did make me wonder about ADHD, I have just been reading about it (and as it's 3:30am yeah hmm, me too, perhaps), just wondering if I should seek a diagnosis (is it useful in education, or can we just use the strategies without it - I mean ultimately an ASD diagnosis didn't really change anything it's not 'oh, he has ASD, let's treat and cure that' (although he does get extra time in exams)) and if there is an expeditious way to do so: we dealt with NHS before bit of a waste of valuable time if you can afford to avoid it?
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
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adhd for child with asd
adhdoh · 20/01/2017 03:44
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