We've just had another piano lesson where DS2 fiddles around and won't sit still, and plays the piano when his teacher is talking, and wants to play what he wants to play, rather than what she wants him to play... It's such a stressful half hour every week, because she finds his behaviour rude. He doesn't have a diagnosis, and she's quite old fashioned and strict.
I don't know whether there are any tips or hints I can give him to help him through this half hour a week. (I also feel judged by her as a parent, but that's my insecurity!) I don't know whether I should try to find an alternative rather than trying to make him act in a certain approved way...
He's 7, and the lessons are at 5pm. He had a drink and a snack just before we went, and we discussed the way to behave. According to his school report, he always maintains focus and concentration at school, so I wonder if he's using up all his coping resources there. I spoke to his teacher this morning and they don't have any concerns about him at school.
He was playing on the tablet just before the lesson, which I hoped would help him unwind from the day, but perhaps it was too visually stimulating. I wonder what would work better?
Having been reading about dyspraxia, I don't know if this is the issue. He can manage the coordination of playing, using both hands, and the teacher says he has good technique when he concentrates. Although he does struggle to articulate himself sometimes, and is quite sensorily defensive and isn't very good with his cutlery...
We also have massive issues around having his hair cut where he has meltdowns over the towels being itchy, and saying that his hair hurts (!) - he has since modified this to his scalp hurting when it's cut. He point blank refuses to let them use clippers on it.
He has poor impulse control and a compulsion to finish what he's started, even if it's playing the wrong piece or at the wrong time.
I don't know whether to speak to the SEN coordinator at school, or to get him assessed for any kind of spectrum condition. DH isn't very keen on that idea.
Sorry that's long and rambly, but would be very grateful for any suggestions!
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
SN children
How to help DS2 outside school - dyspraxia? ASD?
19 replies
BlueEyeshadow · 11/01/2017 09:58
OP posts:
PolterGoose ·
11/01/2017 10:10
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
PolterGoose ·
12/01/2017 07:09
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
PolterGoose ·
12/01/2017 10:10
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
PolterGoose ·
12/01/2017 10:10
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.