I have 2 ds's. Ds1 was diagnosed with Asperger's last year. He is 10, although I have suspected some form of autism since he was 2. So I am trying to deal with ds1 and have actually recieved quite a lot of good advice and help from a few autism support services we have in our area.
However I feel that Ds2 who is 7 is actually the one who suffers most. Ds1 takes up a lot of my time. Whenever I try to do something with ds2, ds1 will come and try to spoil it in some way, either by demanding my attention, just behaving in a silly manner, making constant noise (I think this is part of his stimming behaviours) or trying to take over. Whatever I seem to do to try and deal with this behaviour means the focus is back on ds1 again and poor ds2 gets left to sort himself out.
If I am not around the pair of them to supervise, then quite often ds1 will annoy ds2 by either just touching him when he doesn't want to be touched, or taking his toys because ds2 isn't playing with them properly and ds1 can suggest a way to do it better. This ends up in them fighting and me having to split them up. They can not be left alone in a room unsupervised.
I'm not sure what to do for the best. I do send them to their rooms, both for punishment and also for safety, but it just seems wrong ds2 having to go somewhere else so he doesn't get bothered, or ds1 gets excluded because of behaviour that he can't help.
Ds2 is currently being told off a lot at school and I think some of it is due to how ds1's behaviour affects him at home. I tried to talk to him this afternoon when we got back from school, but ds1 wouldn't leave us alone and in the end I gave up and dealt with him. I will talk to ds2 tonight once dp is home and can sort out ds1, but I think the moment will be gone.
Sorry for the long post, but I would be so grateful for any suggestions for how I can try and deal with things to help ds2. So far all the help and advice I've recieved has been to help ds1, but he's not aware of any problems yet ds2 is.
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