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Ds (8) being called 'weird' at school

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SophiesDog Fri 24-Jul-15 18:54:05

How do I handle this?

He has just told me in quite a matter of fact way that lots of children at school call him weird.

He is just 8 and at a new school since January (we moved house) where he is doing well and seems relatively happy.

He says it is older kids, Y5, Y6, that he doesn't even know, who walk up to him and say 'you're weird, what's your name?' out of the blue.

Other times it is children in his own class talking about him to one another - 'do you like [name]?' 'No' 'why not?' 'he's weird'.

I had this to an extent throughout my childhood so I can sympathise. Ds has just been referred for assessment for ASD, at my request. I am fairly sure he has a form of autism, perhaps AS or HFA. I think I probably do too - my score on the AQ has been in the high 40s every time I have done it.

Should the school do anything; can they do anything? What should I do to support Ds?

All thoughts most welcome. He starts Y4 in September, he does have some nice little friends, but I think this bothers him.

PolterGoose Fri 24-Jul-15 19:26:11

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SophiesDog Fri 24-Jul-15 19:37:51

Thanks very much - I had an idea bout discussing how weird can be good, how I don't see him as weird, but as 'normal' just like I am because we think the same way.

I think he'll like that. I will speak to his new teacher and make her aware though when he goes back as perhaps some of the kids need their minds broadening a bit smile

Your son sounds terrific.

PolterGoose Fri 24-Jul-15 19:44:01

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zzzzz Fri 24-Jul-15 22:56:08

I definitely go with weird is good. Here we tend to use words like "average" and "run of the mill" instead of "normal". It puts a different slant on things grin

"Utterly unremarkable" is a most excellent put down

PolterGoose Fri 24-Jul-15 22:59:59

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SophiesDog Sat 25-Jul-15 08:52:17

No fair point. Maybe normal isn't the right word! I will talk with him though.

PolterGoose Sat 25-Jul-15 09:57:40

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zzzzz Sat 25-Jul-15 12:13:15

"Ordinary" is definitely a put down grin. I do it on purpose to mothers that hiss how weird someone else's child is <evil inner giggle>.

"Yes, you're right he is very different to the average 8 year old. I can't imagine bringing up a very ordinary child"

But I is a bitch. (And I DO find very average/predictable children dull)

PolterGoose Sat 25-Jul-15 12:17:34

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Ineedmorepatience Sat 25-Jul-15 12:30:29

grin @ zzzzz and "Utterly unremarkable!" grin

That is hilarious!

We also embrace weird and different in my house and circle of friends! I hardly mix with any "Ordinary" people! When we do we definitely give the message that different is cool.

It is hard for our kids in school and they take lots of knocks and put downs, so its important that we make them proud of who they are.

Good luck flowers

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