I am hoping for some advice if possible. Our DS is aged 4 and his pre-school have raised concerns and suggested that he is assessed. We are currently waiting for this, and am not sure yet how long it may take. Concerns have been raised before by his previous nursery and his child minder.
However DH is dismissing it all and saying that the issue is one of discipline and as I am the primary carer (DH works abroad and is home about 2 weekends in every 6) that this is all down to me being too soft on DS. He thinks the need for assessment is hokum, and that it is all down to expectations. I work quite hard to manage DS's behaviours (particularly tantrums) and feel run ragged trying to keep things on an even keel.
Tonight I exploded and told DH that if he does not want to be a parent then he does not have to. He is also home for the next week on a break, and I told him that he can bloody take over and parent his way.
But, what I really want is for support, understanding. I have already suggested couples counselling. I feel all at sea and have no idea where ti go. I know that many will have been through this- any advice? Do I 'manage' DH also and his expectations? I work pretty hard to shield DH from the day to day difficulties.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
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DS being assessed for ASD, DH thinks it is a'discipline issue'
CornChips · 15/01/2015 20:27
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