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inappropriatelyemployed Thu 09-May-13 21:32:58

OK, bit of a problem.

A new family arrived at DS school. From same county as us. Put their daughter in the school without putting her on the roll while they were going through the statement process. Kid was in school full time and freaking out. Parents left staff to cope even though kid wasn't on roll and school had no support/TA for her. Just wanted evidence for statementing so two months later, pulled her out of school once statement was about to be issued.

They started to ask me to take their DD home a few times and she had tea here. Lovely girl. Just not coping with school. Parents always late to pick her up and then stayed hours talking through their issues.

Problem is family have now become a bit of a pain. Dad turned up on my doorstep at 7 last Friday to 'chat'

They email me late at night and have twice tried to ring me way past 9pm. I screened and avoided them.

I am really not a 'rules' person and would help anyone but they are taking the piss,They know I have DS out of school and I feel they just took advantage of DS's school.

I really don't want get dragged into their weird world. What should I do?

PolterGoose Thu 09-May-13 23:18:52

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zzzzz Thu 09-May-13 23:22:58

I'm sorry polt I know, I know. I am addicted to such nonsense, they just make me laugh.

StarlightMcKenzie Thu 09-May-13 23:23:33


You're right PG, as usual.

Language is strange. I'm more of a 'communication' person than a 'language' person, I'm sure is obvious from my appalling use of language in general, and shared meaning can often have no relevance or link to the origin of a word, though I agree there are better words with no history.

inappropriatelyemployed Thu 09-May-13 23:32:02

PG it is not often I am accused of being not 'man' enough! Just trying to be sensitive to a family having problems while bearing in mind that the dad at least is a very difficult character to be around. Maybe because he has no manners or is selfish or self obsessed or maybe he just doesn't understand these rules.

You've sorted me anyway!

MareeyaDolores Fri 10-May-13 00:00:49

Ah, just politely state the boundaries.

'I'm sorry, but we only take visitors between x and y pm, and I need z notice so I can warn DS / lock the dogs up / fumigate the sofa / clear the illegal settlement out of the basement

It's much easier to chat in a cafe than by phone / text / facebook I'm usually in Starbucks on Tue 10am. That's the best place to collar me."

MareeyaDolores Fri 10-May-13 00:01:24

Rinse and repeat. He'll get the message eventually.

PolterGoose Fri 10-May-13 08:19:46

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KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 10-May-13 09:04:05

DS1 has found coming downstairs for assessments a challenge. He will stand at the top of the stairs saying 'manning up, manning up' descend a couple of steps and then say 'oh no, girling down, girling down' and go back up (Homer in a Simpsons episode).

Obviously politically and as a strong woman myself I disapprove but I couldn't help but laugh. Also he may be reproducing gender stereotypes but he is using scripted humour to deal with a difficult real-life situation hmm I prefer to interpret it as postmodern irony grin

PolterGoose Fri 10-May-13 09:12:23

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zzzzz Fri 10-May-13 09:21:12


I will try not to "man up" in polts company. I would find "girling down" in face of assessment just brilliant. I don't know why I find this kind of language so funny. Perhaps because the concept of man being superior to woman is just so.....stupid?

<whispers I laugh at fart jokes too>. < MNSN hara kiri >

StarlightMcKenzie Fri 10-May-13 09:38:58

Ah yes. But PG is right, we shouldn't be using it, because that shows acceptance, even if used humourously.

A bit like Irish people making Irish jokes etc.

StarlightMcKenzie Fri 10-May-13 09:41:40

Incidently, if you saw Politicians Husband, the ending was blimmin obvious to me, but dh called it a 'twist'! hmm

If you haven't seen it, a husband and wife were in competition in politics (though the competitiveness and agressive behaviuor came mostly from him), and the woman came out on top.

zzzzz Fri 10-May-13 09:42:23

polt is absolutely right.

PolterGoose Fri 10-May-13 09:45:25

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StarlightMcKenzie Fri 10-May-13 09:53:31

Oops, sorry if I spoiled a bit. blush

The rape scene was bad. I don't watch that kind of stuff willingly so perhaps I'm more shocked/sensitive but it bothered me for a few days after.

It's at the beginning though so it is over with before you are hooked into the tv, so perhaps you can be clearing away plates or looking for the remote or whatever.

I couldn't make up my mind whether it was strictly necessary to have it, but actually I think it probably is pretty key part of the story.

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