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How old were you when you had your last baby?

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soverytiredofthis Thu 07-Feb-13 11:20:48


We are living in limbo land. DD has epilepsy and other probs that may or may not be genetic. We are currently waiting for genetic counsellor to do some more gene testing for Rett Syndrome and other conditions related.

We have always wanted 3 children, this changed when DD was 4 months old and diagnosed with epilepsy. We went down to 2 children and now we are not sure with recent diagnosis of Microcephaly as to whether we will have anymore.

Long winded explanation but I am 33 this year and was wondering how old you were when you had last baby NT or with special needs??

inappropriatelyemployed Thu 07-Feb-13 14:06:46

DS1 - 35 ASD
DS2 - 37 NT-ish!

bigbluebus Thu 07-Feb-13 14:29:15

30 - DD deletion 4p-

32 - DS HF ASD

Cathwyn Thu 07-Feb-13 14:42:43


I was 32 when I had Liam (ASD)
and 37 when I had Zach (only 3 1/2 months old so too early to tell).

No family history on either side so just luck of the draw for us :-)

I would like more but hubby says NO. :-(

They are both the best little boys ever xx

PoshCat Thu 07-Feb-13 14:56:46

39. DD has developmental and speech delay.

glimmer Thu 07-Feb-13 15:32:26

35 NT - 37 (rare chromosome disorder) - 39 NT.
I really wanted a third one and thought it would be good for all my children in the long term (less responsibility on the first). They are now 5, 3 and 1 and
it is hard at times... However, I continue to think it was the right thing.
Now, I am not the ones to ask, but I'd say you have plenty of time to think about this. Maybe wait a year or two and then revisit? Or do you want them closely spaced? Has advantages and disadvantages (can't remember the year in I had a full night of sleep :-) ).

theDudesmummy Thu 07-Feb-13 16:02:24

45 when I had the one and only DS (ASD)

thereonthestair Thu 07-Feb-13 16:32:10

35 miscarried
36 had ds CP caused by placental abruption

auntevil Thu 07-Feb-13 17:00:39

Stillborn at 20
DS1 dyspraxia SPD Eds at 37
DS2 EDs at 39
DS3 EDs and being assessed for dyspraxia SPD at 42
We didn't know about the EDs when we had any of them

autumnsmum Thu 07-Feb-13 17:10:15

Hello as well as last child at 36 I have dd 14 when I was 25 and ds 8 high functioning autism

shazian Thu 07-Feb-13 17:25:49

DS1 nt @ 29, DS2 @ 31 severe autism, GDD, Low muscle tone, pica, SPD then DS3 nt @ 32. 3 boys middle child severe problems, other 2 NT. No asd in either families before now and mines is big family x

NoHaudinMaWheest Thu 07-Feb-13 17:42:44

Ds HF ASD OCD dyslexia hypermobile joints at 37
DD dyslexia at 40 nearly 41

Did think about no 3 but eventually decided not mainly because of my health problems. We didn't even suspect DS had ASD until he was about 8 diagnosed at 10.

At 33 you do have time to wait especially if there is still uncertainty about DD's treatment and diagnosis.

twinkle2947 Thu 07-Feb-13 18:12:41

23 DS1 NT
26 DS2 NT
28 DS3 NT
30 DS4 NT
33 DS5 ASD (unofficially, officially diagnosis on Weds)

Davros Thu 07-Feb-13 18:18:49

Boo hoo, I thought I would get top prize but thedudesmummy has won so far.
I was 35 when I had DS who has severe ASD and 43 when I had DD who is dyslexic
Lots of AS and ASD in my family I now realise. Reason for big gap and only having two is my health with long term immune system illness.
I found having a baby at 43 quite easy but having a 5 year old at 48 was another matter! Especially with DS to manage as well but at least he was well settled at school and had clubs and holiday schemes sorted

Awomansworth Thu 07-Feb-13 18:36:08

44 - twin sons... after 10 years of trying through multiple cycles of IVF

1 NT

I had quite a demanding career, and even taking into account ds1's ASD, I have more energy now than when I worked 60 plus hours a week.

Pebbles69 Thu 07-Feb-13 19:21:04

18 DD1 Dyslexia
22 DS1 NT
30 DD2 NT
35 DS2 ASD
38 DD3 NT

theDudesmummy Thu 07-Feb-13 19:52:25

Know what you mean Davros! Having a baby at 45 was a piece of cake, but having a 3 year old non-verbal autistic toddler at nearly 50 is something else! And I still have the demanding career too! But I seem to find the energy somewhere (in DS's lovely giggle maybe!)

Goodtalkingtoo Thu 07-Feb-13 19:52:47

17 NT
24 Dcd, aspergers
28 nt
34 nt

Spyrofan Thu 07-Feb-13 20:08:41

21 ASD
22 NT

WaftyCrank Fri 08-Feb-13 21:58:15

20 - DS1, ASD, pica and SPD
21 - DD1, NT
23 - DS2, NTish (Quite a few traits but he's only 22 months)
25 - DD2, 3 months so not sure yet but so far so good.

TaggieCampbellBlack Fri 08-Feb-13 22:08:47

21 - DD1 nt
23 - DD2 as

Would have liked a couple more but ectopic and knackered tubes put paid to that idea.

marchduck Fri 08-Feb-13 22:48:17

DS - 32 (NT)
DD - 34 (ASD)
DH & I have been together since I was 18 and married realtively young. We had more or less resigned ourselves to being on our own, but then our wee miracles came along!
One of my friends has just had her first baby, aged 40 - they are both doing the best.

ArbitraryUsername Fri 08-Feb-13 22:51:16

I had DS1 at 19. He's dyspraxic and probably dyslexic. Ds2 is NT. I had him at 28.

HecateWhoopass Fri 08-Feb-13 22:52:05

erm, 26 I think. I can never remember how old I was when I had the kids. That's really bad, isn't it? blush I have to get a bit of paper and work it out.

Mid 20s anyway, for both of them. They were born 15 months apart. Both have autism and younger also ADHD.

We were going to have 3, but once we had DX x 2, we decided to not have any more.

float62 Sat 09-Feb-13 10:30:01


Pagwatch Sat 09-Feb-13 10:32:00

30 with DS1 . NT

33 with DS2 . Asd

40 with DD . NT and absoloutely a fabulous decision smile

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