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What does diagnosis achieve?(52 Posts)
For those of you that have children with sn or sn yourselves, can I ask how dx has helped or hindered your lives?
I have 2 dc with sn, one with dx one without. In our situation the un dx'd child has far more needs, requiring every aspect of his life to be differentiated for. Sometimes I am fine with not having dx, sometimes very positive and sometimes it worries me, really really worries me.
I'd love to hear what you feel dx or lack of dx has really achieved for you and your family, emotionally, socially, academically, financially, in gaining access to services and being refused access to things.
Yes I agree that hinting at an assessment outcome is not appropriate. I had that from dd2's nursery teacher. Four years down the line they might be proved right(!) but I was still not impressed at the time.
The line between hinting or guessing at diagnosis, and being professional within a slow system is fuzzy though.
Saying "I'm not a doctor, however, SLT-wise/ educationally / behaviourally etc your child's needs are broadly similar to those we see in dc with ASD" is surely a polite way of saying 'Bet £5 he has ASD'. And experts ought to share (carefully considered) opinions
DD was diagnosed shortly after birth. She clearly had features of a chromosome disorder. Many of her peers who we subsequently met at a SN playgroup at the Child Development Centre did not and still do not have an official diagnosis/label. DD is now 18 and many of this peer group have gone through special needs schooling with her. So I think the answer depends on the level and severity of the individuals needs. These young people have now passed over into adult services for social and health care and are still having their needs met by the system in a similar way - and in some ways better - than they were in childrens services.
DS (16) was diagnosed with HF ASD at 6. For him, I am convinced it was the difference between getting a statement and not getting one. He is academically very able and was and still is in top groups/sets for every subject. However his ability to focus and behave appropriately meant that without the statement that brought him 1:1 support, the education system would have failed him. He has never had any input from Social Care in childrens services as he has no Learning Disability so does not qualify and so I doubt he will even get on the radar of Adult Social Services when he turns 18, although he is very able, he is extremely unmotivated to do most basic tasks without someone 'on his case' , so who knows how he will get on once he leaves home. I don't think his diagnosis will help him at all once he leaves the education system - in fact it may even hinder him!
Thank you all so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences. It really helps to have something to help me wade through it all.
I suppose part of the problem is that ds is severely effected, but having no dx seems to imply to many people that his issues are mild. It's good to hear there are individuals who go through ss without dx. I don't feel quite so weird.
Think I may be alone on this, but I have decided not to get ds assessed. He is 5 years old, probably Asperges, he has sensory issues too. He started school in September. He has a statement of 22 hours per week - this was put in place before him starting and without a diagnosis. SALT go in to see him every half term. He has the most wonderful TA.
For us, it makes no difference what you call it, ds is our ds - having a name for his difficulties would not change anything. He has the help he needs.
We thought alot about the future and what a diagnosis/label would mean - it could effect his life detrimentally - such as VISa apps, mortgage applications, jobs etc - we decided that we did not want to place any limitations on him.
I think every case is different, if ds was not getting the help he needs then perhaps we would have to have had him diagnosed. But, because he is, its not for him, or us.
ASD diagnosis requires two things: significant impairments across the 'triad' and that these cause significant problems in daily life. Ds1has a friend whose ADOS score was way higher than DS1's. But because his issues cause much less 'difficulty' in everyday life, the consultant decided to hold diagnosis until/ unless it's troublesome.
Just a thought.
I can only see the benefit of a diagnosis if it provides more specialist help and support.
If DD can have this without a diagnosis that would be preferable. Doesn't everyone feel like this? There's nothing positive about a label.
Poshcat, I'm not sure I agree. A year ago I was against pursuing a label but the SALT recommended I have him referred to comm paed. I held out for a bit after discussing with HV but when the SALT made the same recommendation again I felt unable to ignore it. Also my imagination began to run wild and I was imagining all sorts of illnesses in him and fear that I was just a totally crap parent, even though I have an older child and everything is fine. I really resisted the label but life has got too hard without one. Maybe it's down to how brave you are? I should trust my own instincts but I don't anymore, I need peace of mind and a way forward. I really do admire the op for the wy she has made her own judgement and HE'd etc. For me, once/if I have a diagnosis, I can start to get my ducks in a row.
Moving, you may well be right. DD is only 4. It could well be that as she grows further down the line a diagnosis may help.
Keeping an open mind for now.
I don't blame you, that's exactly where I was. I was a bit in denial about my son, but his issues didn't really take off til he started school. I genuinely thought he was speech delayed and a stroppy monkey! When I look back though, clues were there. In hindsight, I wonder why no one suggested statutory assessment to me back then. I knew so little I thought you only got a statement with diagnosis, so I didn't push hard for support, because of my own guilt about no dx. Once we started the ball rolling for dx, school suggested SA but at that stage indicated that diagnosis was less important than need. So I am cross really, as my son stayed pt for most of Foundation year. I will never really know if my own denial played a part in it or whether they just strung it out til he was a bit bigger. I see parents with children with fewer needs than mine, pushing aggressively for support and can only conclude I have been a it of a wimp!
Ps. I have just reread some of this thread and I think sometimes it is okay if a professional does hint at ASD. No one ever did with my child in nursery, though I think suspicions were forming in my head. When he started school a senior member of staff hinted in a round about way and it was like full body blow to me, not that you would have known from my reaction. But, once I had revisited his nursery, the manager did admit she thought he had traits but it was never mentioned to me. If no one comes out and suggests it, how the hell does the parent know if they have no knowledge. It's all a minefield!
I see what you mean. I think many people feel strongly though that only a trained medic can diagnose.
In our case it's even more of a minefield as our paed has said more than once, (I keep asking her because of the SALT's comments) that DD doesn't have enough traits.
On the flip side the SALT reports are full of comments referring poor eye contact, repetitive behaviours, spinning and manic laughter. Some stuff we have never witnessed at home.
Perhaps I've just googled far too much and read between the lines.
There's not much I haven't read about speech delays, disorders, ASD and GDD. Have now decided to stop all that and to focus on researching therapies proven to help a child with severe speech delay/disorder who may or may not have an ASD. Trying to diagnose my DD when the "professionals"cannot is getting me nowhere.
i'm with anna85... although i may not have got a lot of comments about paenting, i could feel the comments... oozing thrrough my skin as those dagger eyes stare at you in the supermarket...
I don't think diagnosis is in itself negative or positive. I think there are huge pros and cons (google "diagnosis PO and cons).
I do think sometimes that it can limit expectations, be used a way of excluding from activities/therapies (eg SALT).
I think it can also allow a level of generalisation that is unhelpful (eg "they are all visual learners).
I think it can limit opportunities in the form of schools, visas, driving etc, that actually may be within the capabilities of some with a particular dx.
I am a little freaked out by reading on claws thread that LEA have responsibility to ensure education of children with sn. I believe that to be a parental resonsibility and am that your dx or even un-dxed sn removes that responsibility from parents to state. How is that fair or just?
I'm also not entirely comfortable that the psychological impact of defining oneself as a dx is always healthy. I think it is a hard line to walk
On the other hand I can see that It can protect the vulnerable.
There is solace in knowing things are harder for you.
It is easier to find people in a similar situation.
It gives you some idea where you are heading.
It is useful to have a shorthand rather than dissect your child with every judgey panted idiot.
For me the worst thing about not having a dx is people assuming either "it's not that bad if they haven't given you a dx", or that you are in denial and don't accept your child.
The best thing about not having a dx is that I am constantly looking at who ds is and what will help him now, and every professional at least briefly looks at him not his dx. There is no plan to follow, we are on a journey together that could lead anywhere .
moving thank you for saying I am brave. . As he has been home for longer, I don't need to be so brave because it is so obviously a good thing for us all. But the beginning was a bit scary.
Ultimately we look after these children so the decision must fit your own family.
Aw zzzz, yes I do think you are brave! I also appreciate some of the ideas you have given on here. For me, I want to be more proactive and that is why I need the diagnosis. I don't want to be a big victim mum of an autistic kid waiting for everyone else to make it better for me (not saying that anyone else is I must stress). I just need that confirmation. I have a gazillion ideas about how to make life better for us all (particularly my older child who I feel has been short changed lately) and how I can find ways to help my special little boy. But I need to be able to say, yes this is the problem. With school, I want to be more assertive and actually more helpful to them. I read and see information that could aid them, I am happy to do the research for them if they don't have time to do it themselves, but again I need to be able to say this is the diagnosis first. This is a major breakthrough for me, I spent a good six months studiously not looking at anything to do with autism. Of course, there's the possibility they will say he is not ASD. I will eat my hat if they do, but again I can say okay, it's not this, but these are the issues. It is a confidence thing for me now. If I am honest, I am expecting diddly squat from the NHS! And I am realistic about what school can achieve, but I want to be able to challenge them and hopefully help them too.
ps. Also, when women in my local park come up to me and ask in a big booming voice, in front of loads of other people, is he autistic, I want to be able to say yes he is, now buzz off. Or, no he isn't, now buzz off. lol.
Do people really come and loudly ask you? Am incredulous. That's awful.
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