DS is now in Y1 - when he was in Reception, during parent's evening, his teacher said she noticed some things in his behaviour which she wanted to talk to us about.
She talked about his fixation with buses (and to a lesser extent trains and cars), almost photographic memory, extremely good behaviour, large vocabularly, his meltdowns (he used to sit under a table when upset and cry but seems to be growing out of this), distressed by loud noises and dislike of any change to his routine. She felt he could be somewhere on the Autisic Spectrum but didn't feel there was enough to refer to the school's SENCO (quote: "I can't refer him because he likes buses"). She suggested we go to our GP.
Our GP has known DS since he was born. She was surprised the school didn't refer him themselves but agreed to refer him to a specialised consultant pediatrician - she did say that DS may tick some boxes for aspergers but was by no means a textbook case.
We had an appointment with the pediatrician a few months ago. After speaking to us and DS, she said DS could well be at the end of the spectrum where having a diagnosis could be deterimental to him and she could like to hear more about the schools concerns. School have only just sent a referral to SALT so we are waiting for an appointment.
The thing is, I feel that eveything positive they have highlighted i.e. his good behaviour, large vocabularly, intelligence is being atributed to the possible aspergers. He is such a lovely boy, kind, polite, thoughtful and we've always tried to instill manners, reinforce positive behaviour, we've always used the correct terms for things and explained them (note: his vocabularly). He has a couple of close friends at achool and a couple outside of school and I've been told by the TAs in reception that he is really popular generally (kids fight to sit next to him etc.).
Obviously, if it's highlighted that he needs support, then we want him to get it - DS having aspergers doesn't affect how we feel about him in the slightest. I think I feel a lot of guilt about DS being premature and poorly when born (not due to anything I did or didn't do, just felt that I and my body had failed him) and now I'm feeling that this is all down to me and all the parenting I have done hasn't been good enough. I love my litle boy so much and I feel like I've let him down somehow
I feel a bit lost in this process and no-one seems to have any concrete concerns. His Y1 teacher feels DS has settled really well and the meltdowns have been few and far between so that's a positive.
I just don't know...
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RokerFace · 08/10/2012 11:58
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