We're in kind of a bad place with ds at the moment... just started P1 (Scotland)... routine all changed about... no longer having time with just him after nursery like last year... So behaviour isn't brilliant right now!
But, despite all of this I can't help but thinking that his older siblings really don't help the situation. I realise that life is unfair for them, and then don't enjoy having a 'really annoying' little brother (he has a genetic syndrome and ASD, non-verbal)...
Please tell me that someone else has siblings that aren't always wonderful and caring and kind!!!
DD (12) is the worst... for years she'll just growl at ds if he even looks at her. No amount of talking to will get her to change. At her worst she has stated that she hates him and wishes he would die.
DS (8) is following in her footsteps (and just this afternoon prompted me to post this!). Ds was just sitting on his little table in the window watching cars go by and shouting... totally happy! DS (8) screamed at him to shut up every time he made a noise!
DS (10) is the only one who is fairly civil to ds (this is starting to get confusing with all the ds references!). They have the closest bond, but even ds (10) gets fed up every now and then... which in my opinion would be the most 'normal' out of all of the different possibilities!
How can I steer this back into some sort of civil household? Family outings don't happen. If ds is going then no one wants to be out in public with him. If they're in the garden on the swings they'll just ignore ds if he wants to go on and be pushed... they basically try to ignore him or just be totally mean to him for no real reason. They've even given up trying to communicate with him. He uses Makaton now, but they can't be bothered... just shout until he cries.
I should say that we do try to make time to spend alone with each of the older kids as we know it's hard having ds being so demanding day in and day out, but even with that they can't understand that a little kindness might make everything a little better.
Aargh!!!
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MommyUpNorth · 23/09/2012 14:55
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