Am I being unreasonable?
DS's special school (SLD) always used to be relaxed about parents coming in. We used to drive DS in every so often and sometimes sit in on the circle time (no more than 10 mins). It gave us a good idea of how DS is responding to the teachers and classmates, his mood, the general vibe of the place etc. DS was non-verbal and now he is verbal, refuses to talk about school at all so we only know what the teachers tell us. Observing him once in a while is therefore very useful. The other kids just took it in their stride and loved seeing other pupil's parents.
For a couple of years now, apparently after a single incident involving a parent having a row with a teacher, (and with a different Head), the school seems to be going out of it's way to stop parents getting over the threshold. Not just me, but everyone. Different excuses are given all the time. Taxi drivers are still permitted to see the kids to the door of the classroom, but parents are not. Visiting professionals can observe the children in class (without permission from parents), but parents have to jump through hoops to get to sit in on classes. It isn't consistent - occasionally, no-one stops us and we just walk in unchallenged!
My friend took her son in on the first day of term and wanted to see him to the door of his classroom and say a quick 'hi' to the brand new teacher. She was stopped in the foyer by the brand new deputy head who did not introduce herself and who instead, tried to insist she hand her child over. My friend refused but felt upset she had to fight her way in to the school.
I am quite uneasy about this. These are children who cannot tell you anything about their day, their peers, their feelings about school. However, my friend who is a teacher says she would hate it if parents went in and 'disrupted' the school day.
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BakeliteBelle · 04/10/2011 17:12
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