DS4 is 3, has not got a dx of ASD yet (does speech delay, not severe) but I already have one with AS, one with autism and one with possibly ADHD so if it looks like a bear and roars like a bear...
My older boys are severe enough to need different types of SN schooling but anxiety has never been an issue we've ahd to deal with, and it's not something I have amssively come across with my related university course either- tbh that's more about definitons, dx, aetiology anyway. He's scared of everything. He was 2 before my Mum could ahve him for 5 minutes, even though he is youngest of 7 grandsons who all adore her- he'd just screech utnil we came back when we tried the walk away and see if he calms approach. he's been with his CM two mornings a week for 2 yeras and still cries at handover, she was fab with ds3 (autistic) and is a friend. If anything is less than perfect- a food wrapper tears the wronmg wat or a bicuit cracks, we put his drink in the wrong cup, anything however tiny- he screams- and keeps screaming. We try our best but sometimes wrappers tear, or there's a traffic jam so we ahve to drive home a different route.
ATM we're at about 3 hours screaming a day on average. It's 5 months until we see the Paed due to waiting list and SLT are going to see him but only becuase I had a bit of a tantrum at one of their courses that was pitched way below my experience level. We do toutines and all the rest but it's the unavoidable things.
He starts nursery next Wednesday and I have no idea how it will go; it's a state nursery (atatched to a MS school) and it took a fight just to get him 2 visits instead of the standard one. He didn't mind it but refused to acknowledge the existence of anybody there, they tried to pal him up with a girl and he blanked her. The SENCO is a foe of days long past (with the older boys) and will avoid me I suspect, the new nursery teacher is lvoely buta dmits her knwoledge of asd amounts to having read the curious incident. He's not yet potty trained (well, he is at home when naked but wets in clothes and has a mortal fear of toilets) and is going to hate it. Ed Psych are only willing to discuss his placement once he is there however, and SLT want to assess him tehre so not going is not an option. Dh works from home anyway so home ed would be difficult at the least.
The stupid SENCO created so many barriers for the older two, and LEA admit she is awful butb outside their trule (church, and only local, school). Am dreading dealing with her again, didn;t relaise how much until she drove past me earlier! She tried to deny ds3 had any issues (he has a dx of autism, severe speech issues and will never be inpendent) and to.d us ds1 had been refused a statement with no appeal when he wasn;t even on SN register- he got a statement first time of asking and starts an ASD Comp base on monday.
Dreading it, hating being back on the DX bus for another time as well.
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Peachy · 30/08/2011 17:14
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