Off on hols tomorrow - ds is beside himself with excitement, he loves to travel. I on the other hand an buried deep in packing and ironing oh yeah the anxiety of public toilet handryers! He doesnt mind the quiet ones but the Dyson ones are a nightmare. So we have the build up of going to the loo and I can see the stress and the fear - then we getin there and he keeps his hand to his ear saying loudly it's too loud - que all the other sods staring and the que stressed irratated me. So I am leaving with three different types of ear plugs, and I've explained we will put them in when we go to the toilet. So if you see a stressed mum and ds at a service station - that will be me! Anyone else jumped and cleared this hurdle?
Can you not use the disabled toilets [if available] and not use the dryer??
That is what we used to do with Dd3, she can just about cope now at 8 but will usually avoid going into public loos if she can possible wait.
I know its abit late for this holiday but you can get a radar key from the council to let you use the locked disabled loos. A sensory difficulty is an invisible disability and you are allowed to use the disabled loos.
You have my sympathy. DD is just the same, screams like mad when we use the hand dryer; putting her hands over her ears makes it rather hard to get them dry! I have given up and keep a small towel handy.
I feel your pain, DS is terrified of these too. Also roadworks, fire/ security alarms, sirens, etc.
For avoidance of handriers (and to change him), we use the disabled loos whenever possible. When we use the public loos I rush him out then whip out the hand sanitiser from my bag, and I have actually urgently shouted "STOP" at a woman once as she raised her hand to the drier, then sheepishly said "please ket us go out before you turn that on, my son is terrified of them". The things we do eh!
Hi, I have this problem too. I use the disabled toilet with my DS and use the antibacterial gel stuff rather than force him to wash his hands. Even in the disabled loos where we can avoid the sound of the driers he gets so stressed he just wants to pee and run.
Cheers everyone - I should have said that I don't make him dry his hands and I have a 5mth dd, so the disabled toilet is where we normally go. This is my last big noise taboo - he used to have a real problem with motorbikes but these has disappeared with age. I am so hoping this one does!
We do tissues too. But then DS tries to put them in the sanitary dispenser. So we have to wash our hands again...
at laminated cards though, that's a fab idea. Our worst experience was in Florida last year, a lot of toilets there have automatic flushes, so as soon as you stand up there is an almighty 'woosh' sound. That plus the hand dryers - fun toilet trips!
Actually, can I ask what people generally feel about using the disabled toilets? DS is getting to the age when I need to start thinking about sending him in on his own, but that would mean always using the disabled loos I think. Do you get catsbumface in RL when you do this?