especially as they get older?
ds1 has aspergers/hfa and he finds it hard if he is approached by someone.
It's worst if it is someone he knows, because he really compartmentalises his life, so if he sees someone who isn't where they "should" be he really finds that hard.
today we were in town and we came across one of his classmates and her mum. The mum talked to him and he just said "go away, you coward" in one of his "voices" that he uses (he tends to change his voice when he is stressed!)
I don't really know what to say when he does that. When he was little people just assumed he was shy or whatever, but as he gets older obviously people are going to expect him to be able to just say "hello" or whatever rather than being rude.
I tell him it's rude to speak to people like that, but I find it really embarassing. Most people don;t know about his diagnosis, and neither does he and I think it would be weird if I started going "oh sorry, he doesn't mean it but he's autistic"...
I am really hot on manners in general so I find it quite difficult even though I know he is finding it even harder than I am! I am not cross with him, I understand why he is doing it, I just don't know how to respond either to him or the person he is/isn't talking to
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how do you deal with your child's reactions to people when you're out? (ASD)
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