DS is 3 and has suspected ASD - PDA, waiting for assessment. We have just taken him out of crap preschool and transferred him to super duper outstanding rated private nursery which has a very strict routine, lots of sitting nicely, not much free play, fidgetting is barely tolerated.
Please place your predictions below for how you think it will go:
Predictions so far:
1. He''ll love the routine and it'll sort all his problems out (lady at church)
2. He'll go CRAZY poor little chap. It'll be the perfect place to highlight the PDA and evidence for a statement. They wont be able to manage and they'll phone me to say they cant cope and they need extra help and advice.
3. He'll hate every moment but he'll hold it all inside and explode when I pick him up, where upon the preschool will tell me "they all do that". Then he'll spend the next week at home screaming all day every day, repeatedly asking me not to send him to preschool again. Next time I take him to preschool they will say "try not to be anxious when you drop him off"
ps no I am not a troll...... (ref to previous thread )
Well I dropped him off and he went in looking like a three year old version of a sulky teenager but that is a good reaction for him.
I gave him a little car to hold and told him that if he didnt know what to do, then he could play with his car.
Didnt tell him we were going to the school until we got there and didnt tell him I was leaving him until I left him. He tries to get out of doing things he doesnt want to do and it took me long enough to get him dressed and into the car anyway!!
School have rung to say he is happy, talking to the other children, playing with his car (I didnt tell them about the car thing so thats a good reliable bit of info)
As the mother in law likes to say (said in raucous welsh accent) maybe "there's nothing wrong with him"!!
Can someone please explain to me how a child who still cries when we leave him at the childminders house (who he loves) - who displays all the traits of PDA at home with us - who loves to control things.....
.....thrives on his first day in a nursery run by routine loving control freaks?
I am totally bemused??!!!
pleased but bemused. I felt blimin stupid sitting down with the SEN at the end of the session!!
Lenin, that is how I feel, but part of me has that 'perhaps im just going mad, being a bad parent, dont know my own son' thing going on. Our experience so far has been that things get progressively worse over time, however they have never gone this well. Its progress at least, even if he does regress.