Ok, history...... Statemented son has had same two (job share) TA 's for 2 years. Recently, a new lady with clearly no experience has entered the equation. Ds has been very I'll of late, had a good deal of time off school and finds change very difficult. I questioned senco's logic to start giving him this new lady and was reassured that whilst it wasn't ideal, it WAS temporary. That was 3 months ago. He still has the other ladies from time to time and they are excellent and always inform me of ds' progress at the end of the schooldays. The new lady gives me little eye contact and I'm told "he's had a good day" and off she goes.
Thing is, I then get a half baked tale from ds. He's been self harming/in tears/name called and generally NOT had a good day. She is useless.
Today, I lost it with her in school reception. I asked her simply if a form I'd asked school to complete that must be mailed off today, was in ds' book bag. She said there was a note about it.... I said I wasn't interested in a note, schoolhad had this form for a week and WAS IT IN THE BAG? She had no idea and so I took saidmbag from her and looked for myself. My tone was cool. Very cool. I am not proud.
Then, I got home. Marks on ds throat where he'd tried to stab himself with a pencil. Turns out he was so distressed he was banging his head on the wall and has unexplained marks on his arm. He self harms because he is "bad". He isn't.....he's a gentle, polite boy who punishes himself for his own imagined misdemeanours. Clearly then, he'd NOT has a good day.
I WAS going to apologise for my tone when asking about the form......now I'm just pissed off that again this woman seems to have no concept ofnwhat is required of her when she "communicates" to me at the end of the school day.
Was I unreasonable?
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MissKittyEliza · 29/06/2011 16:37
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