It's very odd getting the asd diagnosis. Not at all nice, the same shock to the stomach as with any 'bad news'... but also a relief in a rather strange way (when you already know your dc fits the description).
Someone told me to take a couple of weeks to absorb the shock and the grief (both of which I denied, but were clearly present), and not to expect anything but the minimum of myself during that time. They were wise.
and and (hug). And well done for getting your dd2 a signpost so she and the family don't have to rely completely on trial and error in finding out what helps and how to get it.
I'm sure I said before that DS was the same age when he got his diagnosis, he was equally uninterested, lol
I do definitely think it's helped his self esteem though, he likes having a nice firm label for why he is the way he is. Ultimately though, yeah he's just DS and he's the same as he always has been, although it's easier to explain when I need to