Can I officially join you lot now please?

[AtYourCervix]

DD2 has Aspergers.



Not surprised by it at all but I have no idea how I feel about it.

[IndigoBell]

Welcome. Have a cuppa

[mariamagdalena]

I'd best say hello officially then!

It's very odd getting the asd diagnosis. Not at all nice, the same shock to the stomach as with any 'bad news'... but also a relief in a rather strange way (when you already know your dc fits the description).

Someone told me to take a couple of weeks to absorb the shock and the grief (both of which I denied, but were clearly present), and not to expect anything but the minimum of myself during that time. They were wise.

and and (hug). And well done for getting your dd2 a signpost so she and the family don't have to rely completely on trial and error in finding out what helps and how to get it.

[tabulahrasa]

I think the correct emotion is :( :) in no particular order, lol

[AtYourCervix]

that's about it. all at the same time. have to let her know when she gets in from school. which could go very well or very badly.

[Ineedalife]

Oh wow AYC, can you reimind me how how your Dd2 is?

We are still waiting to find our if Dd3[8] is any closer to getting an AS Dx.

I agree with tab, I really wouldn't know how to react, or how to tell her.

[AtYourCervix]

She's 13 and really fine with it all. Have told her and she's like. 'yes, what's for tea and can i have a puppy please'.

[Ineedalife]

Thant's great news AYC, they surprise us soo much don't they.

Dd3 is unpredicatable in all situations, I can never say she will be upset or happy about anything becasue I nearly always get it wrong.

It gives me hope that you have got a Dx at 13 because I think we are not at the end of the battle for Dd3 yet and I intend to keep fighting.

Oh and when is the puppy arriving.

[AtYourCervix]

don't tempt me

[Ineedalife]

LOL

[Mamaz0n]

I feel i should say welcome, yet it feels wrong.

My only advise would be to say this, Your DD is the exact same girl she was yesterday, last week and last month. This dx is just a rubber stamp on a sheet. she hasn't changed.

That helped me get past the "my beautiful boy has ASD/ADHD" stage.

[tabulahrasa]

I'm sure I said before that DS was the same age when he got his diagnosis, he was equally uninterested, lol

I do definitely think it's helped his self esteem though, he likes having a nice firm label for why he is the way he is. Ultimately though, yeah he's just DS and he's the same as he always has been, although it's easier to explain when I need to