Advice on HE or flexi-schooling

[Chickpeas]

My son has AS and despite getting some hours 1;1 in school is still not coping. For meore details I posted on the SEN children topic but was advised people on here might be able to help.

I wondered how to go about flexi schooling. I contacted LEA and they said that No School in my county do flexi and its not their policy to support it. I have also approached several schools and some had never heard of it at all. His current school refuse point blank.

My son is very able academically and is put into the next year up for classwork, but has no social understanding and little practical ability, still wets when stressed in the day and can't change his clothes without help, can't use knife and fork to eat. He is 7, nearly 8 years old and has been suicidal, literally sice 5 years. self harms by hitting himself in the face and smashing his head into walls,chairs etc with frustration. This happens in direct response to school and always at school,where he also gets picked on, spat at. all sorts.
He sees a psych once a month but they just talk about his anger.

I cannot believe NO school round here will do flexi and wondered how to go about finding one.

Otherwise I will have to seriously consider HE which will be very hard for me to undertake.

Any advice?

[FlamingoBingo]

Did you mean to post this on the HE board?

I think that flexi-schooling can mean the worst of both worlds. Try the HE Special website for some help with working out whether or not HE is an option for you. Just because you feel now it would be very hard to undertake, that doesn't mean that it isn't manageable with some good advice and support - learn more about it with an open mind before you decide.

Good luck!

[OverflowingMum]

I used to HE my older DC , who did not have special needs, but as far as I am aware Flexi schooling is VERY hard to come by. It is down to the individual school to agree to it or not,and In my experience most schools will not agree as they find it too difficult to accomodate.
You do of course have the right to remove your child from school, and home ed him though if you choose to.
It maybe possible to perhaps suggest it to a school as temporary measure, they may be more amenable to that, but that may not help you long term.
Is your son getting the support he needs at school? maybe it is worth discussing the whole situation with the school and explaining how upset he is...(sorry if you've already tried all that!)
Good luck finding a solution.