I'm REALLY sorry for posting on what is now 3 boards about my DS but I'm desperately trying to glean advice about a crisis with DS (P2 in Scotland) who has been excluded from school after only 2 weeks of the new term.
I posted on parenting about his behaviour at school which is extremely violent and disruptive (hitting, kicking, throttling, using books and pencils as weapons, all at very slight provocation eg people bumping into him, sticking their tongues out at him etc).
As of today (Friday) he has been excluded for a week due to this behaviour. He has not yet been assessed or diagnosed for any kind of behavioural disorder or SEN although it is quite clear he is troubled in some way and referrals to occupational therapy and ed.psych. were made last spring.
The head took the decision late yesterday and informed me this morning, written confirmation (plus homework) to follow in the post.
I've phoned Children and Families who were very understanding although there was nothing they could actually do except try and get a clear definition of the head's long term plan for exclusion. The head is 'having a chat' about DS with a visiting ed.psych next Tuesday but of course DS won't be there and thus there won't be an assessment.
I'm stuffed to put it mildly as I'm self-employed, have been using after school club as my childcare, apart from that I have nothing to fall back on and if I can't go to work, I don't earn. Which is bad enough for one week but if the head extends the exclusion (which she well might, given that we all know a week off school is not going to change anything from my DS's perspective) I literally have no alternatives, we have no family, no friends, DS's father lives abroad.
What I need to know is who I need to be pestering and what arguments I need to use to get this resolved. I have a GP's appointment for next week although I don't see how she can get the assessments kick started if the school can't. Has anyone been in a similar predicament and what kind of timescale might I be looking at to get assessments and additional support put in place? The head's argument is that she cannot continue to risk the safety and wellbeing of other children and that the school does not have the resources to cope with DS. But although she has the legal right to exclude for as long as she chooses, surely she cannot, in practice, as there is no alternative educational plan in place?
I am not disputing DS's behaviour and have cooperated totally over the past year, signing all the referrals, attended every meeting, backed up the school with restrictions and punishments at home (actually v.difficult when your child is entirely different in the two places). I quite honestly had no idea that they would even consider exclusion, I thought that was a measure taken with 14 yr olds who assault teachers.
Am devastated by this, not just for DS's sake (excluded at 6 - sheesh) but more pertinently because my livelihood and our home is effectively at stake here. I've been told to 'find a childminder' but who the hell is going to take on a 6 yr old who routinely punches other kids
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mummery · 28/08/2009 23:49
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