Disclaimer: in NZ where it is summer, end of school year and state schools not proactive about special educational needs
Feeling worried about my 7yo's social skills. He has a very loud voice which gains volume in social situations, particularly bad at parties and the playground.
He is also inclined to be bossy; we have had lots of talks about being argumentative to the point where I banned him from disagreeing with me for a time (draconian I know but I was exhausted by his endless negotiating and fault-finding). Since then, a few months now, he seems to have gained insight into his controlling impulses and does stop to think before asking to do things differently and often precedes his request by acknowledging what has been asked of him.
By nature he is a joyful, loving child who makes friends easily, but he is inclined to lapse into bossiness and I worry he will lose friends. By contrast his older sister is exceptionally quiet and well behaved.
School was fine until July when he got a new teacher (new to teaching) who has an authoritarian style, blows a whistle constantly etc and I suspect he spends most of his time on the thinking chair.
I wonder if he has learning difficulties is he seems bright, very verbal (high volume but very articulate), excellent on maths but behind in reading. The optometrist has identified vision problems and referred him on to an Irlens specialist. (He cannot make sense of black text on white paper but once the paper is covered with blue film "the words stay on the page")
The OT says he is overstimulated by light and touch, and possibly sound (still assessing) and has recommended the Wilbarger brushing and joint compressions to help him stay calm.
This is proving highly effective, he had a friend here all day yesterday and was able to stay mostly calm and reasonable (huge breakthrough)
Can anyone else relate to this? Is there anything else I can do to help him stay calm and reasonable? Especially on hot days at school when I am not there to brush him!
I am aware that his tendancy to be loud and bossy will be viewed by many as simply brattish but I work really hard to teach him to behave and it is as if he isn't able to moderate his behaviour the way most children learn to do.
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Loud, bossy 7yo and sensory processing anyone?
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sugarman · 06/12/2014 19:18
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