oh god i'm so tired, why did I have a 3rd child?

[DrDoobs]

just wanted a whinge, no point whinging in more detail really. although, did I mention grumpy too?

[dizzydixies]

it will pass I promise, just keep going
oh and free pass on the whinging

[littledawley]

I know exactly how you feel - whinge away!! (if it helps, my third is one now and things are still tiring but not bone achingly exhausting! She's a delight too which makes life easier.)

[suwoo]

My DC3 is a delight, BUT, last night he was awake from 2 am til 6am. I am like a fucking zombie today. My DC2, doesn't sleep through either and he is 3.5.

[DrDoobs]

I would say thank you but I might cry....

[MamaG]

i'll join the "Farking hell it's hard having 3 gang" was up at 5am with youngest today

[DrDoobs]

poor you suwoo - that's the worst. I can cope with waking if they feed and go back to sleep quickly but it's the waking and not settling that tips me over the edge.

[dizzydixies]

christ, please tell me there is an 'its easier with 4' gang or I'm in deep trouble [meep]

[DrDoobs]

the questions is, how did we all forgot how tough this bit is? (DC3 is 16 weeks). I'm hoping your DC3s are all very young too??? please say yes or I'll lose all hope!

[dizzydixies]

oh DrDoobs, we had a huge turning point with DD3 at about 16-17wks, fingers crossed for you too

it was at that point I finally got to put her down to sleep and didn't have to sit holding her ALL night anymore

[DrDoobs]

the worst thing is that he's not even that bad on the scale of poor sleepers - I'm just crap at coping.

[dizzydixies]

you're asking a lot of yourself 16wks after having a baby - take your time and it will all fall into place

what age are your other DC?

[sweetkitty]

I've been up since about 3am with a puking 4 year old am utterly shattered but the best thing is....

am 39+4 weeks pregnant with NUMBER 4

I found the first few months hard with no3 but it does get better. cbeebies is your friend today.

[smallorange]

Can I join? Dd3 (10month)was up at 11pm, 1am, 3am,4.30am and 6am. We are trying to get her to sleep in her cot rather than with us. She is objecting.

DP and I are so exhausted all the time. She is lovely though...

[DrDoobs]

Other DDs are 6 and 4 so no bother really.

sweetkitty/dizzydixies - you'll be fine. just the fact you are having no4 must mean you guys are good at coping with all of this! and if not, come back here for moans and a hug.

Must go: MIL has arrived and I need to hide feelings about no3. back later

[littledawley]

Don't be hard on yourself DrDoobs. It's really tough with older children as you are constantly in the car doing school run, swimming lessons, parties etc. I felt like DC3 was dragged around and that I was constantly strapping children in and out of carseats. It still feels a bit like that now but I am hoping that DD walking will help

Last week we were in the garden and my eldest two were playing so nicely while we were chasing number 3 and trying to stop her from crawling of the deck - I asked DH 'do you ever wonder how easy it would have been without DD2?' - his response was 'YES but you would kill me if I ever said that!!'.

I do often wish that we had stuck at two purely for an easy life but those feelings don't mean that I don't love DD to bits. It's bloody hard and don't kid yourself that anyone doesn't find it that way too. I'm one of those 'full face of make-up at 8am on the school run' types but that's just one of my coping mechanisms. People who don't know me well may well think that I breeze it but I really don't and I have a good bunch of supportive friends that I can moan to.

Wine helps too

[suwoo]

Oh yes, wine helps hugely.

I am kind of used to not sleeping given DC2's horrendous form, so waking 6 times a night is not unusual in this house, but as you say DrDoobs, its the prolonged wakefulnesss that is hardest.

My DC3 is 9 months.

[smallorange]

Everyone I know with three young children has at some point mentioned how much easier it was with two. Wigh number three it's just another few years of no sleep, nappies etc

I do love her though and I'm glad she's here..

And it's good to know others feel the same way.

[DrDoobs]

Thanks guys for the supportive words. Last night was on the better end of the scale but felt v bad yesterday after skiving off for a nap, which made DD2 feel all neglected. DS has definately made DD1 and DD2 more competitive for attention (as i guess one might expect) so it is hard sometimes to not feel like we have ruined their lives! Here's hoping it all gets better with time.

[bippyhippy]

Hubby and I just decided last night to start trying for dc3. But having read this thread, I am wondering... maybe I couldn't cope?!

Is it really a lot harder?!

[DrDoobs]

Only at night for us - he's a much worse sleeper than the other 2 were. During the day he's very easy and happy and smiley. Guess it depends how well you cope with little sleep!

but after all it's only a very short time and it will pass (one day).

[suwoo]

I don't find it much harder TBH, as its DS1 that is the pain in the arse. Logistically it can be difficult and poor DS2 never gets out of his car seat, but apart from that- go for it!

[bippyhippy]

Oh ok then, you twisted my arm! :O

[supermummmy]

It must be hard to be so tired believe me i am going through that faze at the moment.
i have 2 children and a one has autism between the studying running the house paying bills ect spending quality time with the kids i find it impossible for me to have some me time . But would i have it any other way not really seeing that my children are happy and that its because i am spending my time making our lives functional makes it all worthwhile.

[thinker]

I`m 20 weeks with number 3, reading that was a bit scary, too late now, I need tips and advice ANYTHING xx

[smallorange]

Wine and chocolate.