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BQ · 31/03/2010 16:53

I'm a mummy to two beautiful girls and have L aged 4 and D aged 19 months. D used to go down lovely at bed time at 7.30, had a cuddle with prayers in her room an the dark, lifted her into the cot awake and she would go asleep within five mins. Since day one she has always been a random night wakener, some nights sleeps three nights solidly and odd night would awake screaming and very loud and upset, lots of crying and screaming. So not to wake L we used to lift her into our bed, i know bad, bad move! This would be around five in the morning. The last week we tried PUPD when she woke and never went back over so we would be up from five. We have put a night light in her room the last couple of nights, seems to make no difference. The last week we have also had to cuddle her to sleep for normal bed time, instead of just putting her in her cot awake. So last night tried CC 1hr 45 mins later the crying and screaming has got no worse or no better for the whole time. after 2 hours. i picked her up and she fell asleep on my shoulder within 30 secs, this was 10.15pm Awoke everyone in the house at five and never seen a tantrum like it, wouldn't let me hold her just ran from room to room in her white baby grow like a wee ghost. L woke up and very concerned! D went back to sleep from seven till nine this morning!!! what do i do tonight. Never had this with my eldest. A concerned Mummy x

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PrettyCandles · 31/03/2010 17:03

I would go back to what you were originally doing. Nothing wrong with taking your LO into your bed.

It might be a bit difficult to go backwards, as she's already upset and wary as a result of the PUPD and CC. You may need to stay with her while she falls asleep at first. I think that stroking a child, in the dark, without saying anything, is a good way of helping them to settle.

If she seems happy to be put down awake and isn't bothered by you leaving the room, then that's fine. But if she gets upset, please don't try to soothe her and then sneak out. She needs to rebuild her trust both in you and in her own ability to go to sleep.

Once you've got her going to sleep easily again, then let things go on as they are for another few weeks or months before you try changing them again.

Don't worry - any habit can be changed. It just needs the right time, the right technique and the right willpower. Maybe now is just not the right time.