co-sleeping mysteries....

[Flowerface]

I am reluctantly co-sleeping with my 10 week old DD because I can't get her to sleep anywhere else. There are lots of things I don't get about co-sleeping and would be really grateful for some answers! For example:

1. What do you do when they start going to bed earlier than you?

1. How and when do you get them out of your bed and into their own?

1. My DP is currently consigned to the spare room. Is it safe to co-sleep with your partner in the bed too? And how do other co-sleepers cope with the inevitable nonexistence of your...er... romantic life?!

The last thing is quite upsetting me. DP has been in the spare room for about a month now, and it feels a bit sad...

[HGS1]

Have you thought about co-sleeping for the 1st half an hour when baby goes to bed and then moving them to a crib next to your bed. My husband and I also co-slept - for a while and then slowly we moved baby into a crib - she is now 2 and sleeps in her own room - but she still would prefer to be in our bed!

[MrsVidic]

If its something you plan to do for long term why don't you invest in one of those bed side cot things

FWIW I found that my DD was cold in the first few months and an extra layer plus elevating one side of her moses basket improved things dramatically

[Flowerface]

I'll try moving her after half an hour, but so far she seems to wake up the instant she is moved! But I'll give it a go.

[Lymond]

1. My babies have always cluster fed all evening; in between bfing I put them on a blanket on the sofa to sleep, or DH cuddles the baby.

1. In my case, once they're properly on solids, eating 3 meals a day, at 9-12 months-ish, mine seem to stop waking in the night for bm, and start preferring their cot. None of my 3 older DC(3,5,7) come into bed with us anymore, though they enjoyed cosleeping as babies.

1. As long as your DH doesn't smoke, hasn't been drinking or taking drugs or medicine then there is no reason he shouldn't be in the bed too. We have a romantic life at other times... tbh we're both too tired by bed time anyway! Often 1st thing in the morning, move baby into his cot. Or earlier in the evening, just after putting other DC to bed.

Well done - sounds like you are going with the flow and responding to your babies needs. The baby stage flies past so fast, and co-sleeping is one of the ways I try to make the most of it.

[questions2008]

hehehe, don't feel sad, my DH has been sleeping on the sofa for the past 7 months or so...DS has definitely taken over the bedroom