I have a 3 week old DD and she is genrally a very contented baby- she rarley cries for more than 5 mins and is always easily comforted. Usual routine is bath 7.30,feed 7.45-8.30 then she settles about 8.45 - 9.15 she will never settle the first time I put her in the basket she needs picking up comforting etc. She then wakes somewhere between 12.45- 1.45 for a feed then again at 4am- 5.30am
I am Bfeeding her exclusivley and have found it pretty easy however- last night to give me an early night I expressed a bottle and asked DP to keep her downstairs in her mosis basket and feed her before he came to bed- to try to give me a longer sleep. however she got so distressed when i left the room/ stopped holding her she was screaming for about 15 mins then wouldn't settle for 2 hrs. It was really upsetting for me and dp as it seems she only wanted to be with me. Also she totally refused the bottle.
how do we over come this? is it too early to be a problem is it normal behaviour? please help as i have no experience
without wanting to sound too soppy, she cries for because you're her mummy, her world . She doesn't want to be without you. Enjoy how special that feeling is, there's time enough in the future for her to learn to settle with other people. In fact, IME if she always knows that you'll be there for her all the time then she'll probably be more confident in herself and happy to be with anyone as she gets older.
thanks for the advice- i now can see i have totally over reacted- it was just upsetting because it was also the first week DP has been back at work and he feeling guilty about putting in a long day at the office- he got worried that she didn't recognise him as he'd been out for 13 hrs! Welliesandpyjamas thankyou for your post - you have made me feel very speical- it's easy to forget what an important job your doing between feeds and nappy changes!
it must be immensely difficult for dads to have to leave newborns. I know my DH really hated it. It'll be a good while yet before dd 'recognises' anyone but you (only because that's nature's way, nothing against dads!) but when it happens and he gets his big smiles from her when he gets home, it will be sooooo worth the wait!