To get straight to the point, my DS is 12 weeks old, is exclusively breastfed (won't even take expressed milk from bottle but that's another story), really has no routine to speak of and doesn't settle until late at night (usually between midnight and 2am). When he does settle, he's great and will sleep for 7-8 hours, then have a quick feed without really opening his eyes and go down for another 2-4 hours, eventually getting up at about 11am!! I am so grateful that he is such a good sleeper when he does go down for the night, but the lack of routine, late bedtime and late start to the day is really starting to get to me. I am going back to work in about 10 weeks time to a very demanding job and will be moving house the week before I go back to work so I guess I really need to do something about this soon. I just don't think I'll be able to function at work if I'm not going to bed until 1am in the morning. Also don't think the nursery will thank me for delivering a grouchy baby to them. During the day, DS will usually have 2 x 1hour naps between noon and 5pm, then the evenings are unpredictable. He will usually sleep for about 30mins-1hour sometime between 5pm and 10pm (NB: this is all very approximate!) and bedtime is often a different time every night - he usually gives in between midnight and 2am. Bathing has no effect on his bedtime, it is still late and erratic. He feeds every 2-4 hours during the day, depending on how hungry he is - he is still fed on demand rather than by the clock.
In a way I feel as if this 'no routine situation' is all my fault, that I should have been strict from the start and only fed him at regular intervals rather than on demand and tried to establish a routine before this. But I've just found the whole thing so difficult, I don't think I would have the strength to be really strict with him, I've been hoping he'll settle into a reasonable routine of his own accord without me forcing one on him . It seems all my friends have their babies on nice little routines, feeding every four hours and going to bed at 7-8pm, makes me feel like such a failure . Late bedtime for DS also means no time for me and DH which isn't good for the relationship.
Don't know if anyone out there has had this problem, but all suggestions and advice on how to move his bedtime forward or establish a routine would be most welcome.
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No routine, late to bed.......Help please!
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Bluegirl · 17/04/2005 15:57
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