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Where to start with 11 month old's sleep?

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Elvis · 26/01/2005 12:40

How did I get myself into this mess? I SHOULD KNOW BETTER

My ds3 is now 11 months old. He probably has approx 1 1/1 hours sleep during the day either before or after lunch.

He goes to sleep at 7pm,all good so far. But then he wakes at about 2ish usually. I ignore him for as long as possible, but then BF him and put him back in his cot in his own room. At about 5 or 5.30 am he wakes again. I then BF him again and he stays in our bed until we all get up at about 7am.

As a consequence I'm never really knackered and we don't have to listen to a screaming child.

He has never really slept through the night.

ds1 was left to cry it out, with cc from a few months old. ds2 sucked his thumb and therefore slept throught he night, 12 hours from before 3 months.

I know this can't go on and dh has had enough. I haven;t been motivated enough to sort out this situation. I could never admit this to friends, so thank god for mn!!!

Any ideas on where to start?

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weightwatchingwaterwitch · 26/01/2005 12:46

Elvis, we've just done cc with 14mo dd. When she woke and stood up in her cot I just lay her down again and again and again and again until she gave up. She didn't get food, attention or anything at all. And now she (mostly) is sleeping from 7.30 - 6 or 6.30, still earlier than I would like but just about bearable. As my friend said, at least WE were in control rather than her. The first night she kept getting up for about an hour and a half, second night about an hour and less and less until she started sleeping on her own. I would have thought you could drop the night feed now couldn't you? Dd still does wake a bit but recently that's been down to a cough and cold. Good luck. Also, make sure the daytime sleep isn't too early as apparently they need to 're-attach' it to the night time one and wake later rather than make up for it in the mid am. Hey, I'm no expert though, we've not 100% cracked it but it's a lot better than it was.

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MunchedTooManyMarsLady · 26/01/2005 12:46

My DTs have just started going down at 8pm and they wake about the same amount as your DS3 and I can't be ars*d to do anything else. I think that they will find their pattern and the more mobile they get the longer they sleep. That's just me though. I suppose you could do the controlled crying thing if you want to, but if you and your DH can live with it a little longer I think it should resolve itself. What I am about to try though is giving water at 2am/5am in the hope that they get bored with that and stay asleep. It's been mentioned on here quite a lot so I'm assuming it works. hth

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jumpingbean · 26/01/2005 12:58

Elvis ,we've exactly the same problem .Ds2 is now eight months old and he too doesn't through the night. If we get to 4 am without a night waking we're happy.He was easier when first born at least then you expect to be woken, I totally sympathise with you. We tried letting him cry it out too, but I feel cruel and also have a 10yr old son who needs to getup for school and dh needs to go to work.The only thing that helps me when I'm knackered is the thought that some parents have it even worse, a friend of mine her dd2 slept 1 1/2 hours a night and a 10 min catnap throughout the day...

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vicdubya · 26/01/2005 13:30

Snap

Ds is 10 months, his waking patterns at night are almost identical - feed somewhere between 10pm and 2 am (worst when i've just crawled into bed and dropped off, & he wakes)and then usually again between 5 & 6am - sometimes he goes back to sleep again in his cot, or our bed.

We do get the odd night when he wakes around 3 and then sleeps to 7.30am. Bliss!!!!

Keep wondering about cc but not brave enough, as I really can't cope with NO sleep. It's just about OK as it is.

Am not sure how long to go on feeding for either..wonder what happens then...

Absolutely sympathise if you've got 2 other kids to see to during the day - they all suffer if you are zombie'd out with no sleep at all.

I have got passed the stage of thinking there's any easy answer. Just been reading Baby Wisdom by Deborah Jackson which at least doesn;t make me feel such a failure and makes a refreshing change from the GF type approach.

Good luck if you do try taking the hard line

Vics

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Elvis · 26/01/2005 14:35

I suppose that's the point. Can I be bothered? There is no way my very chunky boy needs to be fed in the night. It just makes my life easier. If you'd have said I'd be in this position a year ago I'd never have believed you!
We don't feel sleep deprived in the day, although I'd obviously feel much better if I had an unbroken night's sleep.

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Elvis · 26/01/2005 14:35

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weightwatchingwaterwitch · 26/01/2005 16:36

Well Elvis, if you can't be bothered then don't. But I'm not quite sure why you asked in that case!

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Elvis · 26/01/2005 21:36

I asked in order to see if anyone else is in my position, what people have done with their own children.....isn't that what mn is all about?

Should I face this problem now, will it get worse if I leave it to a future date?