Hi
I've posted a few times before about our struggles with 4mo DD sleeping. I'm aware that she's probably in the throes of the 4 month sleep regression and/or a mental leap, which isn't helping.
We've tried SO many things, but while she has improved in part, we are still having an ongoing struggle with sleep. So we're now considering moving her to her own room. She naps in there in the day (we have an Angelcare monitor with sensor pad) and generally naps really well - she stirs and often gets herself back off, occasionally we have to go up there but not every time. Whereas, in the crib in our room - where she sleeps at night - generally if she stirs she needs one of us to settle her. She can't nap in her crib in the day because DH's office is in our room, so her cot is the only feasible place for her to go in the day. Last night, I was up every 30 minutes with her. It's just unsustainable, we're beyond exhausted.
I know the advice is to keep them in the same room as you for at least 6 months, but given we have the sensor pad we are trying to understand what the risk is to moving her now - if (god forbid) she was to stop breathing then surely having the sensor pad there to alert us would be just as (if not more?) safe than us being asleep and potentially completely unaware next to her? In addition, she is napping in there already, with the sensor pad on, and we are putting her up to bed at about 7pm in the crib (with no sensor pad) in the evening while we stay up, before I go to bed at about 8.30/9pm. So we're not with her while she's sleeping all the time anyway. I tend to wake her when I go in, which obviously doesn't help - and also makes us wonder if we are disturbing her as much as she's disturbing us overnight.
So my questions are
- can anyone explain the risk in this context please
- what age did you move your baby to their own room - and did it help?
- any other sleep tips very welcome!
Thanks.