My DD is 20 months. She sleeps about 12 hours at night (bar the odd teething/illness wake ups) and has either 1 or 2 naps a day. Sometimes she sleeps longer in the morning (so she'll go roughly 6:30pm- 7:30am for example) so on those days we don't do a morning nap but when she wakes around 6-6:30 am we do. She sleep late maybe 3 days a week so it's roughly half the time. She seems to be slowly transitioning to one nap a day which I thought was about right for her age.
I've had lots of comments about how she's 'too old' to be napping now and definitely far too old to be napping twice a day. I would agree if she wasn't sleeping well at night but she is.
I'm a SAHM so am easily able to accommodate her naps. She won't nap unless we're home, if we're out unavoidably and she doesn't have one then she's grumpy as anything. It is a bit restrictive, but as I say I don't mind, it's only for a short while in the scheme of things (and means I can get stuff done at home but that's an unexpected bonus).
Most of the people with a negative opinion of this are friends and family who get put out that I don't make arrangements with them during nap times - they are welcome to come to me if they like but I don't tend to go out. So currently on a two nap day I'm at home between 8:30am-10am then 1-3pm on a one nap day it's more like 12:30pm- 3pm. There's no point in me meeting friends for coffee, or going shopping with someone at 1pm because that's when it's convenient for them if I have a whingy toddler who needs her bed and my constant attention to prevent a toddler wobbler. That's how I see it, anyway.
One friend seems to be getting very offended that we don't meet her at a playgroup that runs when DD is in bed. She's never 'let' (whatever that means) her four children nap after approx age 1 because as she puts it 'I wanted to get out and about, and they need to fit in with me so they learned to deal with it'. I should add though that I'm wary of taking sleep advice from her because none of her (now older) children sleep well, they are 1,3,5 and 7 and all still are terrible to get down at night, wake frequently and they all end up playing musical beds every night. She seems to think I'm being a soft touch.
Anyway what I'm asking is how did you manage naps at his age? Should I be pushing her to drop naps? Or just carry on as we are and ignore other people's opinions?
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rabbitsdontlayeggs · 06/12/2017 14:59
Oh, my non-sleepers are fussy, awful eaters as well. DS1's superpower was that he was a doddle to potty train. Haven't worked out DS2's yet. He's cute? Really good at poking foreign objects up his nose? 
My dd used to nap from 1pm - 3pm at that age so we never went to any afternoon groups. I'd occasionally do something in the afternoon and she would sleep in the car to or from. Depends what it was. But regular groups I would just say shes asleep- no point causing unnecessary stress!
My ds is a totally different ballgame though. He won't fall asleep at home only in the car. He is 15 months and already only has one (mostly short!)nap and seems to time any long naps for the days we have to pick my dd up from nursery so I end up having to wake him up anyway 
make the most of it is my advice!!!
I don't think it matters either way but don't understand your logic that if she's a good sleeper at night she needs more naps? Surely it's the other way round. My DD sleeps 12+ hours but only has 1 nap fwiw.
I don't think the OP meant that being a good night sleeper means she needs more naps. I presume OP means that the large amounts of daytime sleep aren't interfering with her nights (or making her difficult to get to sleep at night), so she clearly needs the lengthy daytime naps.
Honestly, if it works for you, it works for you. It sounds like she's a child who needs a lot of sleep and that's great. Wish my 18 month old slept 12 hours or through the night
@PonderLand that's exactly what happens with us on the few occasions I've bitten the bullet and just taken her somewhere. I took her to meet my friends newborn (well 3 week old) a few weeks ago. I said it'd be better for me to come alone another time - trying to be considerate, who wants any toddler running rampant with a newborn? - but friend was insistent it was the only time that worked for her and it was fine to bring DD. Ok, so I took her and as expected she whinged and moaned the whole time. I managed to keep her quiet for about fifteen minutes with snacks and CBeebies and then we had to leave, it wasn't fair on my friend or DD.
Thanks for all your replies - at least now I feel more confident 'pandering' to DD rather than pandering to the wants of other adults! Lucky I'm a homebody anyway isn't it! 
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