Sleeping through the night

[Violettas]

My 9mo DD2 still wakes up every 3-4hrs at night. I’m exhausted and sleep deprived, desperate to know if I’m doing something wrong. My DD1 was a great night sleeper and could sleep through since she was 6 mo.

Any suggestions welcomed.

Her usual day looks as follows:
Breakfast: 7:30-8:00 baby porridge plus milk (she only takes maybe 90ml of milk, sometimes less)
She naps between 10:30-11:00 sometimes goes a bit longer till 12:00 if my DD1 is quiet enough
After nap she gets a bottle but only takes about 90ml, then lunch at 1:30 pm - usually meat with veg- but she is not a good eater. If her morning nap was shorter she would nap again between 2:00 and 3:00, sometimes goes till 3:30 pm and she gets her milk after she wakes up between 3:30 and 4pm ( usually she takes around 120ml). We have dinner between 5:00-5:30 - she gets her from age fraud and a bit of food my DD1 gets, and we get ready for bed at 6:30pm - she drinks 210ml at 6:30-7:00pm and goes to sleep. Sleeps till 10:30pm, gets 210ml and wakes up again at 2:30am - sometimes takes the whole 200ml of premix milk, sometimes takes few sips and refuses to drink more, but doesn’t fall asleep.

I’m really struggling, with my older DD1 (2.5 yo) not sleeping through the day anymore I’m like walking dead, exhausted. Trying to catch up on some sleep when their daddy can do night feeds but it’s not enough.

Is she not getting enough food during the day? But I don’t feel she would take more anyway. She gets so distracted with what her sister is doing that feeding her is a nightmare.

Any suggestions welcomed.

Ps: she is teething and she started standing up couple of weeks ago, but i don’t know whether this matters or not.

[Changerofname987654321]

It sounds like your baby is perfectly normally. You are not doing anything wrong.

[ninnynono]

One thing I’ve learnt from reading these boards is that babies need much more sleep than I thought. My dd was a rubbish sleeper for ages and then suddenly improved. I’ve only just realized (now I have dc2) that her sleep got better once she was having better daytime naps. Dc2 is the same. Lots of good naps and a better night’s sleep.

So: is there anyway you can get her to sleep more in the day? Doesn’t seem like she’s sleeping much. My dd would be down by 9ish after waking at around 7. Maybe she could go down earlier?

I am really lucky as my three year old still naps. Can you at least encourage your 2.y year old to have some quiet time (tv dare I say if?!) during your baby’s afternoon nap so you can get some rest?

[crazycatlady5]

My 9 month old (almost 10 months) Sleep is worse than it’s ever been. It’s called the 8-10 month sleep regression and is rough. Babies sleeping through is a lottery and happens at different times. Definitely try to encourage naps, but that doesn’t work for us as she refuses to sleep for very long x

[soundsystem]

I have no advice, but just wanted to say that you're not the only one! My 9 month old is the same. And he eats loads in the day, even nursery comment on the amount of food he puts away.

My eldest slept through from much earlier without me really doing anything, so this has been a big shock!

[Nan0second]

Push naps.
Consider night weaning. (Offer 20ml less each feed each night until they stop. Then baby will feed better in the morning.
Good luck

[Violettas]

I tried her to nap more...when she was younger she hardly slept during the day...me getting 2 naps a day from her is a success...she’s just so distracted by everything her sister does that she forgets to eat and sleep.

Maybe she is normal as some of you say, maybe I just got my expectations to high after DD1 sleeping through since she was 6 mo. I’m just hoping that when she moves to her own room in December she may improve or maybe when she goes on cows milk...hahahaha....same as I was hoping for change when she went on solids ;)