DS is my third child and 6 months old.
Until he was 5 months old i didn't feeling was necessary to create a sleep routine, I fed him and he fell asleep.
At around 5 months I started to think of more regular napping and a bedtime routine. My aim was to put him to bed sleepy but awake and teach him to fall asleep himself. Using the baby whisperer method i did this with my older two and it worked really well.
However, for around the last month I've been doing this with DS and it's just horrendous. There are multiple problems here that I need help with and i just don't know where to start.
His 'routine ' is as follows...(he is breast fed except for a three oz bottle at 11pm which he has in addition to a breast feed)
730ish wake, milk
930ish breakfast
1130 milk
Nap lasting 30 min anytime between 1130am and 1pm
215pm milk
345pm nap in pram lasting max 30 min
5pm milk . .from about 5 til bedtime he is quite cranky
6ish small amount of solid food
730 milk and bed
- when i think he is tired i put the routine in motion, change him, close curtains, dummy, cuddle and song and bed. I do ot the same every time.
I put him into his cot then as he's usually drowsy. Then it goes crazy. He becomes more alert, regardless of how tired he is, starts kicking and wriggling etc etc. I rub him to calm him but don't pick him up.
He calms down , i leave the room. Sometimes he is calm for a while, sometimes briefly. Generally he gets gradually more upset and ends up screaming.
When he cries i always return to reassure him. Mostly even if i am there rubbing his cheek or similar he still screams! It's horrible and this pattern can continue for up to 1.5hrs before he falls asleep. And when he does dose off it is always for thirty mins or less.
We've kind of got to the point where I end of staying next to him to console him until he sleeps.
I really don't know where I am going wrong. He seems to hate going to sleep. I find the whole thing upsetting and i hate that he seems to find goingto bed so awful.
- we are only able to do this daytime nap in the cot once a day as i have two older DC and we are doing the school run. He will often sleep in pram then for 30 min.
So between waking at 730 ish and bed about 745 he sleeps around an hour with sometimes another ten mins here and there in the car or on my lap.
Surely this isn't enough?
Strangely, his nighttime bed time routine is ok and he goes to sleep much quicker. He does fall asleep whrn i feed him before bed but i wake him and put his gro bag on have a cuddle and put him in his cot...generally he is less angry and goes to sleep much more quickly.
- since I started trying to get him to daytime nap his nighttime sleep has gone haywire....i give him a dream feed at 11pm and til recently he would wake once after that. But in the last couple of weeks he has been waking three or more times. I'm shattered.
If you've managed to read this far thank you!
Can you give me any advice on how to improve daytime napping please? The only other thing to say is that apart from the sleep he is an incredibly smiley, placid, contented boy.
Thanks for any advice you can give.