Reluctantly cosleeping

[ninnynono]

Have never really wanted to cosleep and was doing quite well. Ds (10 weeks) would be put down in his next to me when I'd go to bed and he'd sleep for about 4-5 hours. Then once awake, I'd have trouble putting him back down but if I waited until fully alseep, he'd be ok. Then once he woke up at about 6-7ish, I'd bring him into bed for a lying down feed so I could continue dozing.

Now he won't be put down. Last night i waited an hour and as soon as I put him in the cot he started crying. Tried the dummy but he spits it out. He also makes SO much noise with it in his mouth (snorting). He will take a dummy for naps. As soon as I put him in bed with me or lie him on my chest the snorting stops and he goes to sleep. I wait, try to pop him down and then the crying starts again.

So we end up cosleeping à lot more than I wanted. I dont really want to cosleep. And tonight we are going to Pil's for a week. There is really no room for him in the bed we have theirs. I can now envisage a week of no sleep. Help! Any last minute suggestions? Thanks.

[ninnynono]

Anyone?

[Luxembourgmama]

From my experience things with babies isn't fixed. Like if you cosleep this week maybe they won't necessarily insist on it next week. I really didn't want to and try not to but sometimes I have to if she just refused to settle. Such as this morning at 5am.

[FATEdestiny]

Are you breastfeeding or formula feeding?

Tried the dummy but he spits it out. He also makes SO much noise with it in his mouth (snorting). He will take a dummy for naps.

The disparity here between naps and night would suggest to me (in this order)

• still hungry
  
• wind
  
• wind and still hungry
  
• over tired so extra help needed to get to sleep

[ninnynono]

Thanks for replies.

Breastfeeding. He has mini feeds during the night time as falls alseep feeding. Then when I put him back in the cot, he immediately wakes up and cries. I either cuddle or feed back to sleep but the feeds are tiny. I wonder if I should try to get him to have longer feeds?

[crazycatlady5]

If you don’t want to cosleep because you feel it will be forever, please don’t let that worry you. Mine started reliably sleeping in her side sleeper much more between about 3-4 months so I wouldn’t worry about that at all. At your PILs is there anywhere else hubby can sleep that is comfortable for him?

Totally understandable if that’s not the reason you don’t want to cosleep though x

[ninnynono]

Yes am a bit worried about it lasting forever and we had a similar situation with dd who once was in her own room, was waking up every hour. Would like to avoid this!
Also get stressed about safety.

[ninnynono]

@crazycatlady5 just coming back to this thread as wondering how you got your baby to sleep more reliably in the side cot? Ds is now 12 weeks and things are definitely not improving. He hasn't been in his cot for a week! Aware it's still early days but wonder if there's anything I should be trying to encourage him other than just waiting for things to improve. Thanks.

[crazycatlady5]

It’s definitely still early days. My 9 month old sleeps reliably in her side cot not but cosleeps for a lot of the night still! I think it was around 5/6 months she started spending more time in there

[ninnynono]

And did she just get used to it? You didn't need to do anything?! At the moment I put ds in it and he wakes up immediately. Then I try to resettle but he won't unless feeding or with me. So we just end up co sleeping as I'm too tired (and have a 3 yo) to do anything else.

[FATEdestiny]

He has mini feeds during the night time as falls alseep feeding. Then when I put him back in the cot, he immediately wakes up and cries. I either cuddle or feed back to sleep but the feeds are tiny. I wonder if I should try to get him to have longer feeds?

Yes. I'd also sit up in bed and feed with yoy say up. Nappy change if needed to wake baby enough to feed well. And not lying down makes it not too comfy to fall asleep.

As soon as baby starts dropping off, ublatch, lift to your shoulder and wind for 5 mins or until burp. Then put in cot with dummy. If unsettled, try to pacify with dummy and in-cot cuddle. If not, probably still hungry. The cry may be a blessing in disguise to re-wake baby up for more of a feed. So put back to breast and start again feeding say up in bed.

A swaddle may help and definately perserveer with dummy.

Aim to not put baby down already asleep. Feed to dozing, wind to rouse slightly, out put down and settle in the cot with a dummy and a cuddle.