I posted a few months ago about my DD. Since then, things have improved in that she is 'sleeping through the night' although I am aware this could change at anytime. But I am completely incapable of getting her to nap during the day unless she is feeding (breastfeeding).
I feel so guilty everyday because I know she needs more sleep but I don't know how to get her to nap. I feel so useless and like I'm not good enough to be her mum. Especially when I read/hear that babies her age are sleeping 4+ hours a day.
At the moment we start out bedtime routine at 7 and she falls asleep anywhere between 7:30 and 8:30 and then wakes between 5:00-6:00am. After a feed she will go back down but sometimes that's only for half an hour but could be up to 45 minutes on a good day. We get up for the day at 8 after I have usually spent a while trying to get her back down.
During the day she will only sleep while feeding, I wouldn't mind her sleeping on me except she doesn't really sleep she just dozes whilst sucking. As soon as she falls into a deeper sleep and my boob falls out of her mouth she wakes up and starts rooting again. I know that she is using my boob as a dummy and I have tried 5 different brands/types of dummies. Out of all of then she will take the Nuk brand for a few minutes before screaming/crying when she realises it's not a book. For the last week she would happily spend all day on the boob if I let her. Often I let her do this because I just want her to get some sleep but it's making me really sore.
She used to love the sling but now screams when I put her in that and she used to fall asleep in the car too but now that happens rarely or if she does lasts 20 minutes max. She loves her pram but only if she can look around which keeps her awake and if I try and pull the hood over she cries.
I don't know what to do and sometimes I feel like she would be better off without me and just with my DH as he seems to be able to get her to nap on him for 30 mins or more. I dread weekdays when I'm on my own and it's really getting me down. I do meet my other mum friends but she will never sleep whilst we are out so I dread the inevitable meltdowns mid afternoon.
I feel like this is all my fault and I'm failing her because I know she needs to sleep during the day. I just don't know what to do.
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SophieBear13 · 20/05/2017 09:01
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