I'm really getting desperate. I don't know how to get my nearly 7mo DS to sleep at night (without an hour of cajoling and copious amounts of tears). Apologies in advance for massive post.
His sleep has deteriorated over last 3 weeks and now wakes every 1.5-2.5 hours at night between 7 and 5.30, and cries unless fed back to sleep and held for up to half an hour afterwards. Often as night wears on he is increasingly difficult to get back to sleep no matter how much boob/cuddling I do. DP sometimes succeeds in rocking him back to sleep (while standing). He wakes and wants boob so often that he frequently soaks his nappy and clothes.
Around 2.5 months he stopped falling to sleep on boob and we had to rock him to sleep, and have basically had to carry on with that since. I thought I was getting somewhere with a 'gradual withdrawal' approach, reducing the rocking, lots of shush-pat, but it's all gone to shit and he now alternates between wanting to feed to sleep and only falling asleep through rocking. I would be fine with feeding him to sleep for now but that is also more and more like a fight, with him tugging, clawing at me and grabbing handfuls of boob (i'm covered in scratches), crying if he comes off or if I take him off because he's hurting me.
I get that he is going through lots of important milestones at the moment and i think he also has a tooth about to come through any day now, but I just don't know what to do to improve things. He's ok during the day, happy as long as he's being entertained pretty much constantly or carted around outside.
One of the root problems I think is that he just cannot relax at all without major intervention from me. And even then he doesn't wind down gradually. He just fights the tiredness until he can't keep his eyes open any more, and even then usually he fights a bit more...
He has 4 x 40min naps with 2 hours in between approx. I have tried putting him down sooner, makes no difference to length of nap, but if I put him down before 2hrs are up he will just fight sleep until he gets to around 2hrs.
So in a very long-winded way, I guess I'm asking how do I get him to sleep with a bit less drama, and to sleep for longer stretches? I don't think I have unrealistic expectations. I would happily spend 40 mins or so settling him each night if there were no tears, and even a few 3-hour stretches of night time sleep would be bliss at this stage. Please help me!!
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7mo sleep nightmare. Don't know where to begin.
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PopsicleToes · 07/05/2017 20:25
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