Need help pleaseeee

[user1486445324]

Any help would be great on sleep training my one year old she Co-sleeps and is bf to sleep?? And ideas

[PovertyJetset]

Millpond sleep clinic book. It was a life saver.

We did (un)controlled crying and it was 4 nights of hell and then.....sleep.

He was 18months when we did it, waking 8/9 times a night and I was an absolute wreck. Gradual retreat, sh ah pat pat, etc never worked. We had to blast through the pain barrier to sleepy land. Only wish we had done it earlier.

He's now 8, could sleep on a barbed wire fence in a tornado and sleeps 12 hours every night.

Did sleep training with Dd at 10 months and was much much easier.

Start it on a Thursday. Get family to come
Over on the weekend and let you have a nap. Hopefully by Monday you'll be on the home straight!

[Bringbacksummer]

The hardest part will be to get her used to going to sleep without the feed. Do you have a partner who could help? Since you're the one who feeds her and since you also will smell of milk to her, it might be helpful for your partner to take her up to bed. Do everything as normal, bath time, story then bed. It might be a bit upsetting for her to be just put in bed to go to sleep awake but could your partner maybe rock her to sleep initially, then once she starts accepting that she isn't getting fed to sleep, you may be able to put her straight in her cot rather than rocking her. Hope this helps.

[user1486445324]

I'll have a look at the millpond book how long over all till sleeping through been reading the cio method but I don't know if I have the heart for it!! X

[user1486445324]

Yeah I have a partner but he works every other evening would that still work do you think wean her before putting in her own bed?

[Bringbacksummer]

Sorry, I've just realised you said you co sleep. I've not read the sleep books or anything like that and we didn't co sleep but with my babies, my husband really helped me wean them off night feeds. We found that if I tried to rock them to sleep it would take forever but they'd give in more quickly with him because he didn't smell of milk etc. Do you feed her to sleep for daytime naps too? I think if I was you I'd try to kill two birds with one stone and do the move to their own bed at the same time as stopping feeding her to sleep. You may be in for a tough few weeks but be persistent and it will pay off. You need to not give in. If she cries for half an hour and you then give in and feed her, she'll think if she cries for long enough she'll get the feed. If she cries and doesn't get the feed she falls asleep, she'll learn that the crying is futile and will eventually forget all about the feed. I am by no means an expert though, this is just based on my experience.

[user1486445324]

I feed her to sleep for her naps As well unless we are out in the car for the past two days she has only had milk for nap and bedtime what do you think put her in a cot and keep going in or sit with her till she goes to sleep x

[Bringbacksummer]

Are you hoping to continue breastfeeding for longer or do you only breastfeed as she needs the feed to go to sleep? The reason I'm asking is, if it's the latter, maybe now would be the time to wean on to cows milk. You could give her a cup of milk and then take her up to bed. You could put her into her bed and maybe sing her a song/give a goodnight kiss or whatever and then walk out the room. I think she'll get very upset when you walk out but I'm imagining she might be more upset and for longer if you stay as she'll just keep thinking about the fact she wants you to feed her. You could wait outside her door for 5-10 minutes, if she doesn't settle go back in quietly, shush her and give her a little pat on the chest then walk back out. She will definitely cry but there will be tears but that's to be expected. Repeat the steps above. I think I'd try to give her 10 minutes to settle after the first time but you'll be the best judge as so much depends on the child.

[OohNoDooEy]

It's quite simple to do gradual withdrawal. Do a bedtime routine of pjs, milk, teeth, gro bag, book and bed then put into the cot and sit in a chair until they fall asleep. It will take an age but after a while they get it and then they fall asleep.

It improves a lot of the coming weeks.

Don't give in! No eye contact, cuddles, bringing into bed under any circumstances between 7 & 7

[Bringbacksummer]

Great advice from OohNoDooEy

Sounds like she's much more knowledgable than me on this topic. Good luck