Hi
Just after some advise if anyone has any.
My DS is almost 2y6m, and since the start of January has pretty much refused to spend the night in his own room.
He was always the perfect sleeper, through night from 6 weeks old, own room at 6 months with no issues, sides of the cot at 2 year old, again no issues. We had the odd night of early wake up/middle of the night wake up, but generally he was fine. (I was probably a bit gloaty about it tbh - getting bitten for that right now!)
He had what I thought was a nightmare at the start of Jan, and we brought him in our bed as a one off (couple of these before and always gone back in his own bed fine afterwards) and this was the start.
Now he won't go up to bed at night anymore. This is fine, we stop all playing at 7.30 and he falls asleep on me or DH and we take him upstairs. I can live with this. But without fail, between 1-3 am he will wake up and just expect to come in our bed. Usually we give in but I hate sleeping with him (I toss and turn, as does he, I haven't slept properly for 30 nights) and I really want to break this habit.
We have tried
- A nightlight
- Sitting in his room til he falls back to sleep - two hours last night, every time I moved he sat upright, I eventually gave up at 3 am.
- Moving back to his own room once he is asleep, but he seems to sense we are staying awake to do this and fights longer.
- Just ignoring his cries but we live in a middle terrace and he can be quite loud
Any ideas?
As we think it is separation anxiety - my DH new suggestion is getting him an air bed for our room, but I think this may just prolong the agony. But to be honest, I am ready to try anything right now to get my bed back!