Hi,
The title says it all.
Our son is to be 3 on the 26th October 2016 but this has been going on for about 5 months now and my wife and I are utterly exhausted.
He goes to sleep at roughly the same time each night, 7.00pm or 7.30pm, but he will wake up anywhere between 2 and 4 times during the night. Now this may not appear a problem for some but he refuses to stay in his room so what happens is that he will just scream at the top of his voice "MUMMY! DADDY! for as long as it takes for us to come down. We tried ignoring it but he continued for an hour and 25 minutes, going into absolute meltdown and having tantrums so in the end you have to do something as we have another younger child (who sleeps through every night) who he wakes up.
To make matters worse, he has now worked out how to get around the security lock on his baby gate so just unclips it and lets himself out, coming up to our bedroom and then throwing tantrums when he isn't allowed to stay, stamping and screaming like he is possessed.
Mainly he wants my wife (who is on maternity leave so gets up mostly) but there are many times where I get up because I can't expect her to take the brunt all the time and my son can react very violently screaming "I don't want you Daddy!", kicking and hitting me.
When I am with him on my own, he is so well behaved. He is polite and well behaved - angelic even. The second my wife comes through the door he transforms into the devil and hates me as if I have been mean to him the entire time she's been gone. We just cannot understand it.
We have looked at every website there is, tried every idea that has been mentioned and nothing works. We've tried to offer him rewards to stay in his room - he doesn't want them. We have said that Father Christmas won't come if he doesn't stay in his room - he doesn't care. We did a rewards chart which he likes in the day and responds well to but in the night getting stars or losing stars has no impact on him at all - he wants out of that room and will do whatever it takes to get out and try to get upstairs with us.
It could be a jealousy thing but the simple fact is this, my wife and me are disgustingly happy and in love so he has to accept that. Its not like we ignore him ever, he gets the bulk of the attention all the time and has done since birth. If I am alone with him and our daughter (10 months old), he will play quite happily with me and/or her and is genuinely lovely. wife walks in and he will physically hurt our daughter (poking her in the eye, scratching/pinching her face etc).
I could go on all day - there is a variety of other things he does which are wholly negative and unacceptable but I think you get the point.
Any ideas/advice would be welcome. We are thinking of seeing a specialist to see if there is anything we can do because we are all out of ideas. He goes to day care and pre school (2 different places) and they say he is a delightful boy who is just a normal 3 year old and he will settle. But my mother in law witnessed how awful he is with me last weekend and said "I am really not happy at all about the way he speaks to Steve."
Anyway, over to you guys. We need help because my job is suffering due to being exhausted. My wife and I got far more sleep when the kids were newborns.
Thanks.
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Cooper1070 · 21/10/2016 09:32
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