I need help. We're going through some pretty terrible sleep and, to be honest, if we don't fix it soon, I think we'll divorce.
My lovely 13 month old has had four bugs in the last month and since being on holiday, starting nursery and contracting the first has given up on sleep in his cot.
We get him in there and asleep by 7:30/8 and generally he falls asleep on his own (no rocking or feeding) and he sleeps anything from 90 minutes to four hours then the fun usually begins. He wakes every 45 - 90mins and won't be resettled in the cot.
Sometimes he won't be settled at all and one of us is then stuck sitting up with him. Usually my husband as we're weaning him off his last breastfeed feed. I should say he has been supremely unbothered by losing breastfeeding; the guy seems happy as long as he gets some milk, the source or the type seem irrelevant.
What else?
- He eats solids fine and got his monster appetite back a couple of days ago.
- No obvious allergy symptoms though we think he had silent reflux as a baby.
- lots of cuddling and playing after nursery to reassure him.
- put him carrier while I get his bath ready to help him wind down and settle
- we night weaned him three weeks before the trouble started, feeding him a bottle isn't helping.
- He loves nursery, barely gets upset when I drop him off and eats and (generally) sleeps well there.
- he's massive. Over 82cm tall at 13 months and over 75th percentile for weight
- generally pretty happy though prone to mercurial crankiness.
- I don't want to co-sleep and experience suggests he's not a baby for whom that will work.
- Waiting it is out not really an option anymore if we're to salvage our relationship.
My husband, while stupendously helpful in getting up, has taken the view that I'm a terrible person because I think we should hire a sleep trainer and that cry it out might be our only option. As you can imagine, that's really helping me feel like a great Mum.
Can anyone offer advice and save me from thinking this is the worst thing I've done? The little guy is lovely and amazing, apart from the broken sleep function.
I'm back at work in two weeks and want to be but am seriously considering quitting as I can't function. I have no idea how OH is doing it.
Mostly I just want to love being a Mum to a lovely little boy and while this going on I can't. It pervades everything.