Hi everyone, my first post here.
I'm actually posting on behalf of my wife who's having a torrid time at the moment. We have a 10 week old girl who was 2 weeks premature and had to be forceps delivered, other than that all seems well and is gaining weight as she should.
Around 2 weeks ago she had a tongue tie separated which seems to have helped with winding and her first injections which were awful. In fact, it seems nothing has been quite the same since and were 2+ weeks on.
In the evenings she will go to sleep in my wife's arms around 8pm after a feed and, typically, sleep until around 11pm when we're in bed until her next feed. This is where the fun and games start. She's in a next to me cot as of last night instead of the moses basket. She begins to stir for a feed so my wife immediately feeds (we're still using Infacol too although I'm not sure of the point - been using it since 3 weeks old when the tongue tie seemed to be causing air intake which resulted in loads of wind) and after a 10-15 minute feed attempts to put baby back down. After this, she will not settle. She won't cry but rather just be wide awake and gurgling, grunting and making all sorts of "awake" and daytime noises if that makes sense. The room is pitch black and the area is silent.
So from around 11:30-6:30 my wife and I get broken sleep in small blocks as she won't go off between feeds. One thing that does seem to help is if my wife lays her on her chest, not feeding, but that way she will settle but of course wife can't sleep as she's worried she'll fall off.
Her "routine" is have a bath at around 7pm, then a feed, then into her sleeping bag (1 tog - she doesn't appear hot and the room has a fan on) in my wife's arms for the evening. This is probably when my wife gets most of her sleep - these 2-3hrs in the evening when the baby is with her.
It's a bit weird as she doesn't really cry that much at night, just is properly wide awake. There are no lights on in the night, no communication, no noise so it's difficult to understand it's environment related. For what it's worth, in the early weeks she slept MUCH better, often only waking once or twice through the night, 3-4hrs for a feed. It's got much worse whereas people try and convince us as time goes on it gets better.
We've had her checked at the GP and no problems. She also, as of this week, seems to actually hate me, likely properly hate me. I took her for 5 minutes the other morning whilst my wife did her porridge and she went from smiling and gurgling to full on screaming to the point where she couldn't breathe and was coughing in such a state. I handed her back and within 10 seconds, silence. Whilst this apparent sudden hatred doesn't particularly bother me (the screaming really does, whatever idiot says "It's different when it's your own" is deluded - it's annoying full stop) it just piles more pressure on my wife and they're just attached 24/7 which can't be helping, but then you do whatever gives you peace I suppose.
I suppose it's just a phase and will get better in time but our relationship dynamic given my job (12-14hr days managing a fast paced factory) is that I'm the stressed and miserable one and my wife is always the positive one, and this is the first time in 10 years I've seen her waver and become down. It worries me. Any help or advice is appreciated. I've suggested placing her in her moses basket in the garage, but apparently this isn't the done thing.
The last line was a joke by the way. Honest.
Thanks all
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Kayleigh735 · 29/08/2016 09:08
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