Hi All, first time poster so please go easy!
I've got a 15 week old DD. She is a really good sleeper (I think FTM). She will generally sleep from 7.30-3/4am for a quick feed then back to sleep until 6/7am. Recently my OH has taken a great interest in the bedtime routine. As much of a hands on dad as he is, breastfeeding has been a bit of an excuse for him not to get involved so much (she's crying = she needs fed).
For the past 10 days I've put her to bed on my own, with a bath, Pj's and feed. Usually I'll feed her on my bed, and she will fall asleep from a feed. If I try and move her to the cot at this point it will wake her up, and the only way to settle her will be by feeding her. So I'll leave her to sleep on my bed, and move her to the cot when I go to sleep (10-11pm).
OH has decided that he wants to do his share of the bedtime routine, but by me feeding her to sleep, I'm making a rod for my own back because he doesn't think he can settle her to sleep. So he has suggested that I don't breastfeed her at night, and we bottle feed expressed milk. He also suggests we let her cry to sleep because he "doesn't want her to get in a bad habit, she is only crying for your boob and we can't give in". I find this massively distressing, but I can't feed herwithout undermining him, obviously then causing an argument.
What is your views on feeding to sleep? Does it last for ever? Is it the best thing for me to do (it feels like the most natural). Should I let him take over and allow her to cry to sleep?
Thanks for any advice, I don't have anyone really who I can ask.
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CtotheB · 31/07/2016 20:39
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