I know this sounds dramatic but I feel like I have completely fucked everything up.
My 5 month old DD is a shocking sleeper and I have shared my woes on this board before. She cannot do more than 2 hours at a time, usually less, but the one thing she DID do, was get to sleep pretty well 3 times a day for naps and then go down at 7pm. We hit the 4 month regression and sleep became a battle, it is now beyond a joke. She will only go to sleep if I feed her, then rock her in the crook of my arm with her thumb in her mouth, occasionally putting her back on the breast, whilst making shushing noises. On bad occasions, she will periodically remove the thumb, arch her back and cry, then plug it back in again. On really bad occasions she will just scream and scream and I'll have to put her in the car. I usually only do this if its been an hour and I'm still trying.
My DH has no hope. Nobody else can get her to sleep but me.
So this week I rang my local parenting centre and spoke to a sleep adviser who explained that DD associates sleep very closely with all the conditions I have put in place e.g. the rocking, the shushing, the closeness etc etc and is therefore unable to put herself to sleep. She also said that DD does not need to be fed every time she wakes up and I need to pare things back so I am doing the least necessary to get her back to sleep. Tried this in the night, found that she goes back to sleep with just holding, but then wakes up again 30 mins later.
Tonight DH decided we were going to try the pick up/ put down method. I did this for half an hour. She became hysterical. At one point she was so exhausted she looked like she was going to sleep but continued to moan in her sleep. Then she woke up and cried so hard she was sick. I reverted back to comforting her, and she clung to my finger whilst doing the thumb sucking thing. She kept breaking off and crying hysterically and the whole thing took a further hour.
I am exhausted and feel so upset. I can't see any way back from this situation. In a couple of months she is going to be starting childcare 3 days a week and I can just see her getting beside herself because she won't sleep for anyone else.
Does anyone have any ideas where we can go from here? Or has anyone got a baby with similar habits?
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User24689 · 24/01/2016 12:48
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