So fucking awful: sleep 18mo

[Cbell]

My DD has always been a difficult sleeper. At best we get a easy bedtime at 7pm then up for the day at 4am. Nothing we do seems to change this pattern.

However, if she wakes in the night it's for 2-3 hours and only CC seems to eventually get her back to sleep..

We've tried co-sleeping, BF, sitting and holding hand, rubbing back. Nothing works in getting her back to sleep.

So it's controlled crying AGAIN. Another night of tears, this happens about once a month, often after illness.

I hate it. I love my child and feel that she has cried too many tears. I feel like a shit, shit parent and I'm sure I wouldn't have done this with my pfb.

Don't be cruel but I feel like her crappy sleep has really damaged our bonding.

[jessthefletch]

I'm sorry, have no words of wisdom but just wanted to offer some support. You are NOT a shit mother, you are doing what is best for you all: she needs this sleep as much as you do!

How long has the prolonged night waking been going on for this time? I ask because ds was like this up until a week or so ago and we have put it down to a sudden massive growth spurt. We noticed a huge difference in his height at the same time as he started taking less time to calm in the night. He still wakes around 2 and we bring him in with us but this week he is going back off quite quickly, whereas before he was just screaming for ages and nothing would calm him.

[jessthefletch]

How was last night for you OP? Hope there was some improvement.